AITK for breaking up with the person I met on reddit
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Its been 1 and half years since we have known each other. And yes, we met here on this subreddit AITK.
Long story short, I made a post previously through which we met. Our vibes matched instantly. It felt like we knew each other since forever. We talked everyday after that.
I was struggling that time. I had toxic friends, I was struggling academically, life felt suffocating… and whenever we used to talk, I used to feel safe and calm. He was going through some issues too. He had serious OCD related anxiety.
Usually I never talk to online friends for this long, but then we got attached. He used to say things like how we will end up together, marry someday, how we are meant to be etc.
We met in Aug 2025. He travelled 600 kms and I travelled 400 kms to meet him in Mumbai. I really fell for him.
But then my mom came to know that I met someone online and she asked me to stop talking to him. That was our on and off phase. But he kept convincing me how this can work out and everything. So eventually I went against my mom too and we started dating on 18 Sept.
The time we initially met, he told me that he used to flirt with some girl whom he also met on Reddit. And according to him it was nothing serious. They had some mutual understanding that they would stop talking if either of them started dating someone.
I agreed. But they still used to talk and we had multiple fights because of her, because he used to hide it from me a few times.
After around 8 months of dating, while he was showing me chats through screen recording, I saw texts where the girl was calling him baby, babu, saying I love you etc.
I completely lost it. I called him a cheater and everything. He later explained that those chats were before we officially started dating, during our on and off phase. He said he never said I love you back to her or anything.
But I was not able to process all this because during that same phase he was still trying to convince me to trust him and date him. He could have stopped her, yet he didn’t.
Still I gave him another chance and asked him to block the girl
Again after few days things got messed up. I broke up. But I was still attached to him so I kept texting him again and again 🤡.
Then later we talked again and ended the call saying I love you to each other.
And after few days again I found out that he had unblocked her and wished her happy birthday.
He cried and said sorry. He said “he didn’t know what he was doing”.
Now he doesn’t call or talk to me anymore. And idk why I have no self respect that I keep going back to him.
All I needed since the beginning was emotional support.
I have cried so much during some fights that my head, hands and feet literally went numb.
Call me stupid, but I really got manipulated by all the flowers, gifts, handwritten letters, long msgs and the way he used to handle my anger issues.
I genuinely thought I had found the right person for me.
Now its nothing. No efforts, no calls, no convincing. Just silence.
And whenever I try talking to him now, he starts talking about his own life problems and how he is mentally exhausted and has no energy left to convince me anymore.
Just wanted to share my story on the same subreddit where we initially met.