AIO Being weird about saying no several times for not wanting to get in my friend’s bed?
I’m so anxious I literally puked. This guy has been giving me bad vibes. We were friends in college. we drunkenly hooked up once like 12 years ago. I moved around the country but came back to my hometown. We found out thru instagram we are in the same city. We’ve hung out twice since then.
My gut instinct went sour last time we hung out. I had said how I think I’m asexual and hate sex. He told me how he’s super horny all the time. Idk but my gut told me I’m not safe. I ignored it and we were going to hang out this weekend. Then he texted me this at 1 am.
I said no nicely. “Nah I love my bed too much” “I won’t be hanging out in your bed” “I think it’s weird” “beds are special… I can’t disconnect” “I don’t get in bed with people” “it’s a no from me dawg”
Just to be met with “a simple no dice would have been fine”. I said no. Several times. As nicely as I could.
I felt like he just kept pushing and I kept rejecting. I have an issue with guys not taking no for an answer from being raped (by friends) in the past.
All my red flags are flying.
Same thing that’s put me in dangerous situations before: i blame myself and tell myself I’m over reacting. I look for the good in people then something really bad happens.
So now im doubting myself. Is it harmless bedroom hang? Like why? Why not the couch? Why wasn’t the first “nah” not enough? Am I being weird?
All I know is I’m literally sick to my stomach.