u/DirectionBig2125

I want to start a business but I need help with things that I could do with a small capital.

So there’s this guy that I’ve known him pretty much all my life M28. Perhaps at the tender age of 4 years old. He’s always been very reserved and for that reason we didn’t talk much beyond pleasantries most times. Our families also know each other very well and interact very closely. We even went to the same high school but on my end I have vague memories of him.

Recently, over the past few months we’ve been interacting more because I now have to be at his grandparents home more now.
After a few months of having his number, we started texting more and having casual chats and then in one conversation he told me of his feelings for me ever since we were very young. Pretty much had feelings for me from we were 4 but he was too scared to tell me due to his shy nature. I was shocked because as far as I knew, he has a girlfriend that the family is also aware of.

He eventually explained to me that things aren’t going well with the girlfriend and that they’ve pretty much broken up. Here’s some backstory: They’ve been together for somewhere between 6-8 years. The breakup wasn’t because of cheating but because of some personality flaws that she has (example, manipulation, severe jealousy etc). Family members who had known of different instances in the relationship advised him to breakup with her because of how serious it got, but he still wouldn’t break up and opted to just stop telling them about.

He didn’t tell me much details, out of respect for the privacy of their relationship, but just enough for me to have insight.

Anyway, he’d tell me that he’s always liked me, I’m his childhood crush and he’ll always have feelings for me.

In the midst of him telling me that, he’s in the midst of having problems with his ex 26F because she’d send him messages cursing him out and even see him in person and curse him out about the problems they were having while together.

He still has feelings for her after this years long relationship and every interaction with an argument would completely shatter him and make him so depressed and I would try to comfort him.
Normally after she’d act up, he’d pursue her and try to get her back and work things out. But this time, since I’m in the picture, he never pursued her. He said he was tired of the back and forth and the drama over the years. And she never tries to make up after an argument and how it’s always on him. She did tell him they were through. She broke up with him.

Anyway, eventually for a few weeks, we were hanging out very often (no sexual activity included), she started reaching and asking to talk. He was unwilling to, but I encouraged him to hear her out. He did and it was very emotional for him, but I stuck through it and tried to support him. But basically she wanted him back.
He told me that he wasn’t interested, and he’s focusing on us but he was still hurting and grieving the loss of his relationship despite how she treated him.

He didn’t reach out to her even though she said she would actually try to be better for them.
He said he wanted to move on, but he still loved her.

Anyway, one day she called him saying she had a stalker and she was crying, so he picked her up from the cops to bring her home. Now every week now she pretty much has an issue with this stalker because he works in close proximity to her and he has to go pick her up once or twice per week from work. Mind you she’s also pursuing him still because she wants to fix things between them.

This has caused me and him to be at odds and pretty because he says he still loves her and cares for her (which is understandable). He’s an empath. But my thing is she has family members that can pick her up and she can arrange driving arrangements. But he promised me that I have nothing to worry about.

But won’t him being around her cause the feelings to rehash between them? Won’t this make him feel conflicted?

I suggested that we take a break and eventually he agreed.
We still talk daily and I’m still weary about that because him being around his ex so often doesn’t assure me that we’ll have a future because of his feelings for her.

I’m just feeling very insecure and worried because I do have a lot of feelings for him and I feel like I’ve wasted my time by letting my guard down and be very emotionally vulnerable with him.

I’m just at a loss for words and I have no clue what to do. My emotions are all tied up in this.

What would you do?

So there’s this guy that I’ve known him pretty much all my life M28. Perhaps at the tender age of 4 years old. He’s always been very reserved and for that reason we didn’t talk much beyond pleasantries most times. Our families also know each other very well and interact very closely. We even went to the same high school but on my end I have vague memories of him.

Recently, over the past few months we’ve been interacting more because I now have to be at his grandparents home more now.
After a few months of having his number, we started texting more and having casual chats and then in one conversation he told me of his feelings for me ever since we were very young. Pretty much had feelings for me from we were 4 but he was too scared to tell me due to his shy nature. I was shocked because as far as I knew, he has a girlfriend that the family is also aware of.

He eventually explained to me that things aren’t going well with the girlfriend and that they’ve pretty much broken up. Here’s some backstory: They’ve been together for somewhere between 6-8 years. The breakup wasn’t because of cheating but because of some personality flaws that she has (example, manipulation, severe jealousy etc). Family members who had known of different instances in the relationship advised him to breakup with her because of how serious it got, but he still wouldn’t break up and opted to just stop telling them about.

He didn’t tell me much details, out of respect for the privacy of their relationship, but just enough for me to have insight.

Anyway, he’d tell me that he’s always liked me, I’m his childhood crush and he’ll always have feelings for me.

In the midst of him telling me that, he’s in the midst of having problems with his ex 26F because she’d send him messages cursing him out and even see him in person and curse him out about the problems they were having while together.

He still has feelings for her after this years long relationship and every interaction with an argument would completely shatter him and make him so depressed and I would try to comfort him.
Normally after she’d act up, he’d pursue her and try to get her back and work things out. But this time, since I’m in the picture, he never pursued her. He said he was tired of the back and forth and the drama over the years. And she never tries to make up after an argument and how it’s always on him. She did tell him they were through. She broke up with him.

Anyway, eventually for a few weeks, we were hanging out very often (no sexual activity included), she started reaching and asking to talk. He was unwilling to, but I encouraged him to hear her out. He did and it was very emotional for him, but I stuck through it and tried to support him. But basically she wanted him back.
He told me that he wasn’t interested, and he’s focusing on us but he was still hurting and grieving the loss of his relationship despite how she treated him.

He didn’t reach out to her even though she said she would actually try to be better for them.
He said he wanted to move on, but he still loved her.

Anyway, one day she called him saying she had a stalker and she was crying, so he picked her up from the cops to bring her home. Now every week now she pretty much has an issue with this stalker because he works in close proximity to her and he has to go pick her up once or twice per week from work. Mind you she’s also pursuing him still because she wants to fix things between them.

This has caused me and him to be at odds and pretty because he says he still loves her and cares for her (which is understandable). He’s an empath. But my thing is she has family members that can pick her up and she can arrange driving arrangements. But he promised me that I have nothing to worry about.

But won’t him being around her cause the feelings to rehash between them? Won’t this make him feel conflicted?

I suggested that we take a break and eventually he agreed.
We still talk daily and I’m still weary about that because him being around his ex so often doesn’t assure me that we’ll have a future because of his feelings for her.

I’m just feeling very insecure and worried because I do have a lot of feelings for him and I feel like I’ve wasted my time by letting my guard down and be very emotionally vulnerable with him.

I’m just at a loss for words and I have no clue what to do. My emotions are all tied up in this.

What would you do?