u/DirectorZestyclose22

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Should I leave my bf because of his stepdad?

so i (17f) have been with my bf (18m) for 2 years now doing mostly long distance, and i went over to his place to meet his dad for the first time since I just got my P's and finally drove to his house to meet his family for the first time. They new about me and I had talked to his parents over the phone but never in person so they didn't know what I looked liked.
I was there for afternoon tea and his mother was preparing a fruit bowl as me and my boyfriend watched a movie. His stepdad (54m) walked past us slowly holding a water melon and said "damn son, your gf melons are twice the size of these'. and the comments didn't there. He made comments about his wife's (47f) breasts and how he would have been more satifised is they were the size of mine and how my bf better love and worship them or he will.
I was staying the night and was getting changed in the bathroom (which could be unlocked with a key on the outside) when his step dad unlocked door walking in on me and stared before pretending it was an accident.

Before I left I told my bf that I wasn't comfortable with their comments and how they were objectifying me but he just brushed it off saying it was just how his stepdad was and I shouldn't worry about it.

I just got home and I'm honestly debating breaking up with him because of those comments. I really love my bf but he didn't even acknowledge that what his stepdad was saying and doing was making me very uncomfortable.

what should i do?

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u/DirectorZestyclose22 — 11 days ago

AIO for considering breaking up with my bf because of his family?

so i (18f) have been with my bf (19m) for 2 years now doing mostly long distance, and i went over to his place to meet his dad for the first time since I just got my P's and finally drove to his house to meet his family for the first time. They new about me and I had talked to his parents over the phone but never in person so they didn't know what I looked liked.
I was there for afternoon tea and his mother was preparing a fruit bowl as me and my boyfriend watched a movie. His stepdad (54m) walked past us slowly holding a water melon and said "damn son, your gf melons are twice the size of these'. and the comments didn't there. He made comments about his wife's (47f) breasts and how he would have been more satifised is they were the size of mine and how my bf better love and worship them or he will.
I was staying the night and was getting changed in the bathroom (which could be unlocked with a key on the outside) when his step dad unlocked door walking in on me and stared before pretending it was an accident.

Before I left I told my bf that I wasn't comfortable with their comments and how they were objectifying me but he just brushed it off saying it was just how his stepdad was and I shouldn't worry about it.

I just got home and I'm honestly debating breaking up with him because of those comments. I really love my bf but he didn't even acknowledge that what his stepdad was saying and doing was making me very uncomfortable.

AIO for considering this?

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u/DirectorZestyclose22 — 11 days ago