u/DisasterOk1202

Hi

Basically I (31F) am just trying to figure out what the meaning of a relationship is.

I’ve been with my boyfriend (29M) about a year and a half, in the up until about a month or two ago I couldn’t fault the relationship. He’s the most stable supportive gentle person I’ve ever been with and I love him for this. We have a lot of the same hobbies and some different hobbies, so we always have things to enjoy together and differences to talk about. Lately I’m finding myself bored and irritated though, the excitement has faded and it feels we’ve sunk into comfortability. I don’t know if this is normal or a sign of something bad?

I always expected a relationship to continue to be exciting, we are different people I have ADHD and am a lot louder more intense and chaotic. I wonder if I’m better suited to someone similar or should bask in the gentleness and support I get. It’s difficult to know what is right

I suppose I just want advice from anyone in a long term relationship or that has specifically been through this and what you did

TL;DR looking for advice from people who has settled into a long term relationship and how they dealt with this transition

It doesn’t feel possible to determine which is it . I have been with my partner for coming up to two years, in the beginning it was magic had never felt that way before. We had atricky time for months about six month in, arguing etc and probably close to breaking up but turned it round.

I had never waned in my love and intensify of feeling for him up until about a month ago it feels a switch has flipped. I ‘m feeling bored and irritated and can only notice bad things. I can’t understand how I could go from that to that so quick and can’t figure if it’s that we aren’t correct for one another or if it’s something to do with adhd and boredom. Anyone experienced ?