u/Disastrous-Fox95

Before i start , for the record, i have attachment issues, and i am only into older men . Im 23, and i met this nice 55 year old American guy on a trip in my country . He has been married for 24 years for his partner, and their relationship has been on a hiatus for the past 6 years . So they are open . His partner is in the US living his own life while he travels for his work .

We met on grindr, and he adored me so much as much as i adored him . We talked to each other for three days through texts and calls and exchanged a lot about each other . We shared everything, and we really connected . Then, we ultimately met twice . On the first day, we kissed , cuddled, and sucked each other off a lot . We were with each other for about 6 hours . Then we met again the day after and did the same along with sex too . We share the same interests , we think, very much alike .

We talked a lot about each other and we really got attached to each other . This got more intimate than any of my past relationships did , which went on for years . But we both knew that we could not be together . He is more than twice older than me , he is married and we are on the each different corners of the world .

We both wish we had more time, and i wish that i got on grindr much faster . We wasted a lot of days . Today, He is leaving, and i am starting to miss this man so bad . There is a good chance that i might never see him again . We both have our lives outside of what we had, but our connection was so good ;(

I really need help to move on from him as i find it very hard . Please, any help would be really appreciated .

Yes, i said what i said, and i am gay . I have had my fair share of the local straight and gay communities, so i know the shit that i am talking about right now .

I could mention a handful of " straight " relationships of my friends that went so wrong because of one of them being closeted homosexuals . As a matter of fact, my last relationship alone went downhill because he was a closeted homosexuals pretending to be open in my company . He was DL even though he swore that he wasn't . Turns out that he has had a whole ass girlfriend during the time that we were together

Last month, i met a man in his late 40s . The dude is married to a woman and on gay dating apps seeking twinks to have sex . This dude sweared on god that he was not gay . In his perspective, he is a " horny middle-aged man seeking good encounters." No matter how much i convinced he wasn't ready to accept the fact that he was gay

Recently, i went on Bumble and Tinder, and it was full of guys who are in " Happy relationships with their girlfriends " on their Instagram while seeking men on dating apps .

So before yall get into dating , please make sure that the person you are seeking isn't a closet case 😭🙏🏾