Question for those who separated when finances were tight…
I could really use some honest advice from anyone who’s been in a similar situation.
I feel overwhelmed and exhausted carrying so much of the mental load at home. My husband helps, but it feels inconsistent, and since having kids our relationship has changed a lot. We’re in couples therapy, but I still feel disconnected, unhappy, and honestly I personally have zero intimacy or desire anymore since becoming a parent 10 years ago with my 1st. I also worry about what we’re modeling for our kids. They rarely see any love between us and can very likely feel the tension we carry as much as we try to mask it (and the mask comes off sometimes in front of devastatingly)
For those who were in this situation and ultimately decided to separate/divorce how did you make it work financially, especially with kids? Did husband rent a one bed and move out even if things were tight? Im thinking that might be better than staying together and modeling an unhealthy partnership for our children. But it will be tough financially and I don’t know if waiting until things are better money wise will make a difference ?