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I woke up this morning and it felt like the room was tilting. I couldn’t walk properly and had to put my arms out because I kept tripping off to one side. It felt like I was on a moving ship. It went away after maybe 10 mins and I felt a lot better within about an hour.

Wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this? I’m seeing my doctor in 2 days and will bring it up with him then, but wondering if anyone else has any experience with this!

I originally said I would never want 2 under 2. Now my daughter is 5 months old and we’re trying for our second 😅 If all goes well we’re hoping for a 14-15 month age gap. I NEVER would’ve thought I wanted a small age gap, it seemed crazy to me. But I’m also in a very different situation than most people.

My husband took 6 months off work with our daughter and will be taking 8 months off with our second. I’m also taking off work so we’re both at home. My husband also doesn’t just “help out with the baby”, he’s fully a 50/50 partner, doing feeds, diaper changes, playing with her, cleaning etc.

I feel like most people who have a hard time with 2u2 usually have a partner who works and don’t have much help, which is completely understandable because I’m already dreading having him go back to work in a month.

For those of you who had a lot of help from either a partner, family member, friend, etc., would you say 2u2 was more manageable? Or are we still crazy? 🤪

ETA: we have a unicorn baby who’s slept through the night since she was 6 weeks old. I know that can change at any time (she just cut her first tooth and has been waking up 2-4 times the last week) and we don’t expect the same for our second, but her easy temperament is part of what made us think we can handle a second as well!

My daughter is 4.5 months and I haven’t worn her very much since she was born. I have 3 different carriers and they didn’t get much use, I’m hoping to use them more with my second 😅

Now that she has better neck control and is more aware, I LOVE carrying her around and I really want a carrier that I can use to hip carry her. She’s tall and over 15lbs now so my arms are already getting sore fast. I was looking into ring slings and I saw hope & plum recommended a lot but $220 is pricey.. is that what I can expect to spend?

Would love recommendations for ring slings and if hope & plum is worth the money!

Also, do ring slings work well for hip carrying if you’re pregnant? We may be expecting our second sooner than later 🤪

TIA

This happened when I was in my mid-20s. I went out for a walk and as I was walking down a main road I heard a man yell out his window of a red car and wave his arm at me. I didn’t make out what he said but I assumed it was someone who knew me and went on walking. I noted the make and model of the car because I was trying to figure out who I knew that owned a car like that. I turned into a subdivision right after that and started walking through, not going anywhere in particular, just turning down random streets and walking.

About 20 minutes later, when I was heading back home through the subdivision, the same red car pulls up on the street next to me and the guy (30s) starts talking to me. He says, “hey don’t I know you from somewhere?” This man spent 20 minutes driving around the subdivision after he first drove by me on the street to try to find me and ask me this, I got chills. I remember looking around and realizing that while it was the middle of the day, I was completely alone and vulnerable. I told him “no, I don’t think so” and continued walking, picking up my pace. He continued driving next to me slowly, repeating that he’s “pretty sure he knows me from somewhere” and I repeated that I don’t.

For some additional context, I’m a short girl (4’10) who has been mistaken for a teenager/younger girl a lot when I was in my early 20s. I once had a cashier refuse to sell me a lottery ticket (didn’t ask for my ID, actually told me to leave the store) because she didn’t think I could be 18 when I was actually 21 at the time.

I add this because looking back on it, I’m certain this guy thought I was a lot younger than I was. Between the way I spoke to him (as an adult, not a child), and a large tattoo on my leg that’s only visible if he had seen me at the right angle, I think he realized I was older than he initially thought I was. I felt like he was leading into “oh that’s right, I know your mom from somewhere! Do you want a ride?” Instead, he kept driving next to me for a bit, not saying anything, like he was thinking, watching me. Then finally he drove off.

Between the effort he put in to finding me and the way he spoke to me, I felt so sure that was an abduction attempt intended for a much younger target.

Looking for inspiration for a sibling name that fits well with my daughter’s name, Madelyn. Male/female options as we don’t know what we’re having. Last name is 1 syllable so prefer 2 and 3 syllable names.

Thanks in advance ✌️

My girl is 11 weeks, but she’s over 24in long and 13lbs. She’s not rolling yet but every night she manages to end up scrunched up horizontally in her bassinet. We’d like to move her to a full-size crib but really want to room share until she’s at least 6 months. We have the IKEA Sniglar crib and we can disassemble it and reassemble it in our room if needed (our room has space), but that will screw us up for daytime naps since she’ll be napping in our room during the day instead of her nursery.

I have a fisher-price playard that’s sleep safe certified in the US, but not in Canada since none are. I plan on using it for the occasional overnight if we travel with her. I don’t love the idea of her sleeping in a playard like that on the floor long-term…

What are some other options? What have you all done?

She sleeps through the night (10-12 hours) so we’re not as concerned about middle of the night wake ups.

My daughter is 11 weeks old and due to some issues (I don’t want to get into it, not looking for advice) I was not able to breastfeed with her. We’ve had a few successful attempts over the weeks and I loved the ease of it and the bond i felt with her. I still try to latch her occasionally but it usually ends with her crying which makes me cry and it’s just adding unnecessary stress.

I’ve been exclusively pumping and I have an oversupply so I’ve been able to feed her exclusively breastmilk and build up a 340oz freezer stash so far. It’s hard, I’m exhausted, I hate pumping, I have D-MER, but I’m so grateful I’ve been able to feed my baby to this point.

My problem is I’ve been starting to have a lot of jealousy towards those who have been able to breastfeed. I feel like I’m missing out on this bond with my baby girl, and I feel like I won’t be able to feed her for as long as I planned to. I’m exhausted and already looking forward to the day I can start weaning off. My girl has had some weight gain issues and I’m constantly blaming myself, like maybe she’d be gaining weight better if I was breastfeeding instead of bottle-feeding her. She also gets lip blisters and I blame myself for that too. Someone I know had their baby within days of me and she’s been able to successfully breastfeed with no issues. My daughter was born 1.5lbs heavier than hers and their daughter has already more than passed her in weight. Again, I blame myself.

I have friends who breastfeed and they make it look effortless. Half the time I don’t even realize they’re feeding their baby and not just holding them. I get so jealous when I see that. I have a friend who’s pregnant and planning on breastfeeding and I hope everything goes well for her but I already know I’m going to be so jealous if/when it does. I hate that I feel this way, jealousy is such an ugly feeling.

I just feel like I’m failing as a mom. And I know that I would never think of that of someone else so why do I think that about myself, but it’s how I feel. I’m missing out on the bond I could’ve had with her and I’m just so sad about it all.

I planned on breastfeeding so I didn’t look into pumping that much when I bought my pumps (prior to baby girl being born). I bought a medela hand pump and Momcozy V2 Pro wearable pump. My thought was to exclusively breastfeed at first, then start pumping so my husband could give bottles. That didn’t pan out because of a NICU stay and some other issues, so I’ve been exclusively pumping since day 2.

I keep reading online that wearables shouldn’t be your primary pump as they’re not effective for milk transfer. I’m currently 6 weeks pp and I’ve never had an issue with supply. I pump regularly with my wearables and produce enough to feed my baby plus a little extra (about 6oz per day or so) that I freeze. I would love to freeze a bit more, but I’m worried about creating a big oversupply so I haven’t tried too hard to increase my supply.

Since wearables seem to be working for me right now, is there are any problem continuing to use just my wearables? Or will I be screwing myself up for once my supply regulates?

First, we’re seeing a paediatrician about this and we have a game plan. I’m not looking for medical advice, just insight from anyone who may have gone through something similar.

Our girl came out big at 10lbs and had a big appetite. She was in the NICU for the first 4-5 days of her life and was bottle fed and they kept giving her bottles with faster and faster flow and she was eating a lot of her age. She got back up to birth weight fast and her weight was trending was so well. Then around the 2 week mark she started having some issues with what we think is/was silent reflux. Feeding became more difficult and she stopped gaining weight as fast. She would cry on the bottle and was so fussy, plus all the symptoms of silent reflux. I exclusively pump and she receives breastmilk by bottle. We were told to increase the nipple flow (she’s struggling to finish and falling asleep on the bottle!) and decrease the nipple flow (slower flow is better for reflux) and we honestly struggled a lot to find the right flow for her. We finally feel like we have the perfect bottles with the perfect flow (when she eats, she eats a good amount in a good amount of time), but she’s still not eating right…

Sometimes she falls asleep while eating. Sometimes she stops eating halfway through a bottle and just plays with the nipple, sucking on it but not actually sucking and spitting it out. She’ll have 2oz in a good amount of time but then spend 20 minutes playing on the bottle and maybe have another 0.5-1oz. We’ve gotten into the habit of feeding her constantly throughout the day just hoping she’ll eat as much as she’s supposed to, but clearly she’s not because her weight gain is below the threshold.

The paediatrician gave us a medication for reflux and also told us to limit her feeds to every 3 hours because she’s likely tired from eating so often. The problem is she screams for more food every 1.5-2 hours during the day because she just doesn’t get enough in a single feed. We pushed it at her last feed and got to almost 3 hours and she again ate less than she should be for her weight. She ate a lot at a good speed then was suddenly just done. She was wide awake but playing with the bottle. I’m at a loss, I have no idea what to do. It’s not like it’s a supply issue or latch issue. I genuinely don’t know what the problem is and how to fix it.

For reference she’s 5 weeks 5 days old, currently weighs 11lbs 1oz, was 9lbs 15oz at birth. We’re using Philips Avent Anti-Colic bottles with nipple flow 2 (for 1m+).

I’m a FTM and my baby is 5 weeks. I feel like everyone else has it more together than I do. I have lots of support (family, friends, and husband is off work for 6 months), but I still feel like I’m drowning. Specifically, I’m so scared to take my baby anywhere or do anything with her. There’s a small festival I’m supposed to go to tomorrow and someone I know is bringing her 2 year old and 3 week old to it, but I’m so scared to just bring my girl. So far our only outings have been to the doctor and chiropractor, or short walks around the neighbourhood. Yesterday I walked to a nearby Subway to pick up dinner and she started crying in the store and I felt so overwhelmed. My family keeps asking us to come visit like it’s no big deal but it feels like a big deal to me. My only other reference point is a friend who had perfect angel babies who never cried, she was going out and hosting parties within weeks postpartum. I also know someone who had a baby a week before me and it looks like they’re already doing outings. On a side note, I literally can’t figure out baby wearing. I have 3 different carriers and each time I try to put her in one she has a meltdown and I feel like I’m doing it wrong and hurting her. It means I’m always nap trapped with her and can’t do anything else unless my husband takes over and that feels overwhelming too. I just want to be one of those moms who takes her baby out and handles everything well and throws her in a carrier and baby wears her if she starts getting fussy. I just feel like I’m failing.