u/DisciplineMammoth173

I understand wanting to breakup and I know that avoidants want to distance themselves and can blindside you. What I have difficulty understanding is why someone would purposely want to hurt their ex partner even more than just the breakup, for example blaming them, breaking up on an important holiday or immediately posting about happiness/partying etc? Would love to get your perspective on this.

At this point it's not even about the relationship or missing them anymore, I just think it sucks that I was left with so much emotional damage (I think I have anxious attachment) and they seem to be fine. I don't want them back but the damage the breakup left me with makes me think I won't be able to find the right person and trust someone that much again. If any avoidants or people that have been involved with an avoidant read this, feel free to give your input on this.