Help with my 91yo Grandmother - Elder Financial Abuse victim
My grandmother is 91 years old and my Auntie is running her into the ground both financially and emotionally. My grandmother had 12k between her money market, savings, and checking at the first of January. She had way more but over the past couple of years she has bought several cars, bailed her out of jail/paid off fines, lawyers, on top of providing everything else for my Aunt who acts like she is entitled to all this. She also ruined her credit by taking out 3+ credit cards and maxing them out at 10k each. We have tried Adult Protective Services but my grandmother tells them she is fine and she knows what my Aunt is doing and is okay with it. The only problem is she is about to be flat broke. We can sell her condo and she can live with us, but my Aunt will not be allowed to be anywhere near. My grandmother really enjoys her independence though. She watches my daughter (and my daughter watches her) she enjoys waiting for her to get off the school bus and she goes through her papers. It has given her something to look forward to each day and helped her to keep track of the days.
My Aunts behavior is abhorrent. I heard her one day and she was asking my grandmother for money and my grandmother told her No, so she just kept asking rapid fire gimme,gimme, gimme, just over and over and it drove me nuts in just the short time it took me to get there and shut her down. I just cannot always be there and my grandmother always breaks because she says she doesn’t have the energy to fight it. I’ve tried to talk to my aunt but she goes crazy and screams and leaves.
Has anyone had any experience is there something I am missing as far as what I’m saying to Adult Protective Services?