u/DistinctEnvironment2

It’s been 3 months post D&E procedure done at week 22. It’s been up and down but slowly getting back to my “normal” self.

Lately, I’ve been having a harder time connecting with certain friends (not their fault as we never told many ppl about this difficult journey, only the super close friends know and have been gently providing support) but I’m finding it harder or less patience being around couples who have kids and all their conversations are about their kids lives - their schedules, extracurricular activities, education, etc. Ive spent a lot time listening through all their kids stuff and learn through them.

Sometimes it feels like I’m always a whole lifetime behind …we were just never in the same season of life…while it wasn’t a big deal when we were younger in our 20/30s, I’m finding our life gap more obvious now… my highschool friends have kids that will soon enter highschool …while I’m still here trying to start a family. I was never one to “compare” our lives per se but with my latest experience, I feel I can’t relate to those friends anymore. On top of that, there has been a few other friends who just gave birth and have invited us to their baby showers. It feels abit much and I don’t really feel emotionally connected to their life journey….While I’m truly happy for all my friends, sometimes I feel bad and have declined attending their kid/baby showers events as I feel I needed to protect my emotional well being and health.

Has any one felt this way? Is it just bad timing that I had a tfmr and this season of my life is just more sensitive? I’m usually not like this but perhaps as I’m getting older I find my tolerance to be lower and saying no to their hangouts/ events has actually made me feel better. Is it bad that I think sometimes society has placed too much on showcasing our lives, posting everything their kids do, etc?

Anyways just wanted to get this off my chest. It’s been a rough year and as I continue to heal I hope I can feel better about myself and how I connect with friends. This is tough and hard to communicate it when it seems like no one understands this infertility + ivf + now tfmr journey.

Hello all,

I’m wondering if anyone has successfully given birth from frozen donor eggs at Asian Egg Bank? I went to them last year for my transfer and while I did get pregnant for the first time ever after 4 years on our infertility ivf journey, unfortunately I had the terrible luck and experience to a pregnancy loss at 22 weeks due to very severe genetic abnormalities despite doing the pgta testing and proper genetics screening on both sides. Sighs. It’s been a long journey but after some time of healing I’m looking to restart this process again but I am feeling anxious and worried that my past pregnancy trauma will happen again despite the fact that the doctors and genetics team have told us that this was such a “rare occurrence and probability of occurring again is low”. Sighs. I somehow always fall on the other side of the stats. We did everything we could to get pregnant and give the baby a chance but it still didn’t work out - no amount of testing, dieting, screening, etc could have prepared me for the pregnancy loss.

Has anyone used donor eggs and how did that genetic screening/testing process look like ?

Did anyone do any pgta or additional testing on their donor eggs even when it’s not really required? Did anyone do amniocentesis testing (if over 35+) MFM will typically offer that and I wonder if we should just not bother doing testing as would we be asked to do amniocentesis anyways ….

Would love to hear if anyone has used AEB and how their experience was like?

Thanks!