u/Doc_Almond

I will try to summarize this the best that I can.

Context: All of this started 3 years ago when my wife and I began reporting that the new hire wasn't properly doing her job and was showing very early signs that she didn't want to carry her own weight. My wife and I work a federal job together. Federal jobs are apparently notorious for being very difficult to get fired from. The majority of my office is also 98% female, the only males are my boss and I. The majority of the workers there are lazy, slow, incompetent, ill-mannered, and Jesus freaks. My wife and I used to love throwing parties for the office, decorating and helping everyone whenever we could type people. We would even use our personal money for all of this. This of course until the ship started sinking and we saw people for who they really are.

For the past 3 years, my office has been sinking below rock bottom at this point. The manager is the typical incompetent "I'm my own man, nobody tells me what to do, not even my superiors" type of person. The manager has also shown favoritism to the most incompetent workers, but my theory is that he protects them because they (including himself) are being watched under a magnifying glass by his superiors and if they mess up, he gets grilled for it. His superiors have already sent him to a "manager training" and of course it was just a waste of resources.

The incompetent workers continue being incompetent and he never calls anyone out, but God forbid my wife or I do something that doesn't float their boat. We immediately get called out. My wife and I have literally been told by other offices that we are the one's carrying that office. But of course, our manager could care less.

For the past year, my wife has been suffering as she struggles with Misophonia and the lady in the cubicle next to her is the typical stress eater. We'll call her Myra. Myra is 5' 7" and weighed over 420lbs before her gastric bypass surgery 2 years ago. You would think that she would control her eating habits or find a different way to cope with stress, but she goes back to food every single time. The problem isn't her eating, the problem is how she eats. This lady literally eats like an old dog slobbering on a fresh bone. I sit in the back and can sometimes hear her eat. This has caused my wife excruciating pain. She has tried headphones and white noise only to get reported by Myra. Today Myra literally began eating at 8am and didn't stop until 5PM closing.my wife said she was going to faint and certain pints and she couldn't leave her area because we were short staffed.

Even after explaining to the manager what was going on, he ignored it like he does with everything else he doesn't want to deal with. Myra will complain just about anything, but if you tell her anything it becomes WWIII. Because of this my wife is going to consult with her PCP to hopefully get an ADA for her misophonia. The only problem is that who knows HR will even accommodate her requests.

She, of course has already previously told the manager via emails and conversations "please move me to a different location in the office or at least let me use headphones" to which his responses are either ignoring her completely or is "I make the rules here, nobody else has complained about her, deal with it, you're screwed." Come to find out, the manager chews his food worse than her and constantly makes gross mouth noises when he's thinking.

My wife and I are desperately looking for new jobs, but mostly her. My wife needs a job that will qualify for her PSLF. She still has 6 years left. The feeling of being stuck and hopeless in this hell is undescribable. I imagine there are so many other people feeling this way. Please, we are open to suggestions. What can my wife do to at least be moved or have Myra stop stuffing her pie hole everyday? We have even noticed rat droppings around the office. I even told my wife that if she just wants to quit, I'll for support us for the time being, but the problem goes back to the student loan forgiveness. She isn't going to move until she already has another job at the ready.

My wife and I work in the same office space. It's a federal job. It is run by the stereotypical incompetent "I'm my own man, nobody tells me what to do, not even those above me" manager. The majority of the coworkers are the typical fake, lazy, phone addicted, rumor and gossip spreading ladies. 98% of the office is only female. My wife has misophonia and the lady, (who we'll call Myra) in the cubicle next to hers is a stress eater always mouth open, munching loudly on snacks. She also clips her nails at her cubicle. Mind you, she is 50+ YO. She is also the typical "disabled" person who gets away with saying or doing anything, but God forbid you tell her something because she'll automatically throw management at you. We've already had rats because of her. My wife has communicated this to our manager, but he doesn't want to do anything about it. What can my wife tell Myra to quit doing that stuff since it's driving her insane in the meantime while we find another job?