My(33M) wife (30F) is a cherry picker and sometimes often a hypocrite
She has a tendency to look at other relations and only pick the positives and actively ignore negative.
She actively ignores her friends who are facing bad end of their marriage, passively compares to other couple being well off, but fails to note the girl contributed a significant amount almost 80 lakhs, is highly qualified and has a high paying job. Plus her friend's husband is sometimes abusive and aggressive.
Looks at couple in mid 40 DINKs and manifests we do the same in 30s
Calls her parents lovely couple, but their arguments could be heard a mile away due to a bit of excess methi in food.
Her aunt commenting on our private life is a mere breaking the ice, my mom bringing those inappropriate comments to my inlaws notice is a grave sin
Her uncle disrespecting me is rubbed off as a joke in bad taste. Me pointing out same is bad faith
My parents going on a shopping spree just for her is forgotten, I have to thank her parents each time I wear something gifted.
Her father literally (not as a casual comment) said to me, I am no longer responsible for her is standard. But when I need financial advise he should be the first port of call.
Got angry over not stopping at their place when on a retiree trip with friends and its bad on my parents, but her parents passing by parents home 5 times without informing is perfectly acceptable.
Remarks my home for being away from city but had to literally bus 8 hrs to reach my inlaws place
Sticks to home food at my inlaws, prefers to go out twice a day at mine
Doesn't like me going to my long time friends and cousins for technical advice, fumes at me when I dont talk to her relatives.
Cherry picking on rituals, the ones my parents follow are regressive, the ones her parents follow are mandatory and promote spirituality. The ones my parents dont follow are missing out on bare minimum and the ones her parents dont follow are the ones that dont fit in the modern world. If I have to put in a Venn diagram, two disjoint Venn diagrams is what I get
There are good few more, I'm going to stop here