u/DontLickMyToast

Hi so me and my girlfriend of 5 years broke up recently but are still living together. I was wondering if anyone knows if we can be friends or if it’s ultimately too painful and can’t work?

I don’t know how hard it is for her but I’m finding it hard everyday to see her and pretend we were never in love , but maybe I will get over that one day , or will this whole thing be easier to just go out separate ways as quick as possible?

To make matters worse we own a house together so there’s no easy escape

Hi,

So about two months ago my partner asked me about going into an open relationship because she’s never had the chance to ‘explore’ as she’s basically been in relationships her whole adult life, mainly our one of 5 years.

She went on a girls holiday and slept with another guy while she was out there. Upon her return I was not angry that it happened because we agreed to the open relationship but it still really upset me. I have now said I don’t want an open relationship anymore and we either go back to normal or break up but she wants to just take a ‘break’ from us and continue seeing other people.

To complicate matters further we have recently just bought a house together but this was before we talked about an open relationship

Now I need advice on whether to wait for her to finish seeing other people and hope we get back together properly, as i can’t imagine my life with anyone else, or do I call quits on it now.

Thanks in advance for your help

UPDATE
We sat down and talked it through and I broke up with her as I can’t agree to what she wants. It’s utterly heartbreaking but it’s for the best. We are going to try and be friends and not sell the house asap as it would wipe out both of our finances because of the early exit costs from mortgage and other costs

Thankyou all for your help, I never expected such a huge response but the opinion was all the same, leave her and find someone who loves me and that’s what I will do!!

Thanks again everyone!