u/Donttellmewhatt0d0

**AITA for deciding I’m done telling my parents anything about my personal life?**

I (23F, turning 24 in a few days) have never been on a date, had a sleepover, gone out with friends, or really had any kind of social life because my parents have always been extremely overprotective. The only thing I’ve done my entire life is sit in the house.
Today I finally decided I wanted to change that. A friend invited me to go to a lounge, and I actually picked the place because it’s somewhere I’ve wanted to go. Nobody pressured me into it. I wanted to go, have a nice time, and come back home later that night.

When I told my mom, everything blew up.
She immediately started saying things like, “You grew up sheltered, you don’t really know who your friends are.” The thing is, I went to school with these people. The only reason I’ve never hung out with them before is because my parents never allowed me to.

Then the conversation turned into every worst-case scenario imaginable. According to my parents, I was going to get kidnapped, raped, drugged, or murdered. My mom started crying, my sister started crying, and everyone acted like I had announced I was moving across the world instead of spending a few hours at a lounge.

This isn’t new. My sister wanted to go on a date years ago, and my mom reacted the exact same way. She tried to stop her from going and then ignored her afterward because she was upset. I also have another older sister who literally had to run away from home in her mid-20s just to have any freedom.

What frustrates me is that I feel like my parents are projecting their own mistakes onto me. My mom became a teen mom at 16, and my dad was in and out of jail when he was younger. I’ve never been in trouble, never partied, never snuck out, never done drugs, and I’ve barely even left the house.

To make matters worse, my mom called my older brother to get him involved. Ironically, he’s the one who actually got into legal trouble as a teenager, yet somehow he had more freedom growing up because he’s a man. My dad also kept saying, “You don’t have friends, you have associates,” as if that somehow justified everything.

I understand parents worrying about their kids, but I’m almost 24 years old. At some point I have to be allowed to make normal adult decisions. I wasn’t asking to disappear for a weekend—I wanted to spend a few hours with friends at a lounge.
Now I’m at the point where I don’t even want to tell them anything about my life anymore because every little thing turns into a huge emotional production.

So, AITA for deciding that from now on I won’t tell them anything, I plan on working so I can move out and go no contact

I’ve been talking to this guy for a while now. He’s 25 and I’m 23. In the beginning, I really liked him because we had a lot in common and our conversations flowed naturally.

The first red flag was when he randomly asked me if I’d thought about having sex with him. That instantly annoyed me because I’m not just looking for sex

I actually want to get to know someone first. I didn’t snap at him, though. I stayed respectful and brushed it off.

Then there’s the way he jokes with me. I know some people play around like that, but I don’t. He made a comment about slapping me, and when I told him I didn’t like that, he said, “I meant I’d smack you on the ass.” I thought it was corny and inappropriate. He makes sexual comments like that all the time, and honestly, that example isn’t even the worst one.

At one point, I told him that I was molested as a child and explained why certain comments and behavior make me uncomfortable. He sent me this long paragraph saying he understood, that he loved me, and that he’d be patient and respect my boundaries. I believed him… for about a day.

Not long after that, I was at home doing my nails and getting ready for the week when he asked me to come see him. I sent him a picture showing I was busy, and he replied, “Let me come over and help.” I had to explain—again—that I wasn’t comfortable with our first date being at either of our houses because I’m still getting to know him. The truth is, I don’t trust him enough for that.

Then Monday came around, and he asked me out. I couldn’t go because I was in the middle of something, so I suggested we actually plan a date instead. I told him I’d love to go to a lounge, have a couple of drinks, eat some good food, and maybe get hookah. Instead of helping plan it, he kept making excuses like, “It’s going to be packed on Saturday.” Then he joked that we should just get a motel and call it a day.

Again… everything somehow circles back to sex.
Another time, I was telling him how I wanted to try different hookah flavors, and his response was, “Try this dick.”

At this point, I’m completely turned off. I don’t trust him, I don’t enjoy talking to him anymore, and I’m honestly disgusted by how often he ignores my boundaries.

I’m on the verge of blocking him, but part of me wonders if I should tell him one last time that his behavior is the reason I’m leaving. The problem is… I’ve already had that conversation. More than once.
So, am I the asshole if I just block him and move on with my life?

I met this guy in early June. At first things were good , we vibe well and can relate on a lot of things. But since then he's been pushing for things I'm not comfortable with.

First he wanted me to come to his place. I said no. Then a day later he wanted to come to mine I said no to that too. I told him honestly that I have a history of childhood trauma that makes me uncomfortable meeting up at someone's house, and that I need to get to know someone first, mostly over the phone, before meeting up in person or going on an actual date.

He also says sexually charged things sometimes, like out of nowhere asking "can I get some," which makes me really uncomfortable given my history.

Today he asked again when we're going on a date less than 24 hours after I told him I wasn't ready. I ended up lying and saying I was babysitting my nieces just to avoid the conversation, and he said okay. Now I'm considering not responding again, or blocking him altogether, because it feels like he's not actually hearing me when I say no. And that alone gives me A BAD VIBE!

AITA for not wanting to move faster with him, or for considering cutting things off instead of just telling him directly?

A few days ago I saw a pain management doctor for the first time, and I went into the appointment with high hopes. Ever since then, though, I’ve just felt depressed, disappointed, and honestly angry.

He went through my medical history. I’m 23 and have lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, and fibromyalgia. I’ve been dealing with chronic pain since I was a kid. I’ve also tried what feels like everything my rheumatologist has recommended over the years, including Benlysta, chemotherapy medications, mycophenolate, and other treatments.

After looking everything over, he told me he didn’t think he had any pain medication to offer me. He said I could get an MRI of my back to see if I have arthritis. If the MRI shows arthritis, he said I could get injections.

But then he said if the MRI doesn’t show arthritis, I basically have three options:
“Change your mindset.”
Physical therapy.
Lose a little weight.

The “change your mindset” comment honestly crushed me. I wish I could convince my body that it doesn’t hurt. I wish I could think my way out of autoimmune diseases and chronic pain. If it were that simple, don’t you think I would’ve done it years ago?

That comment made me feel like he didn’t take me seriously or understand what living with chronic pain is actually like. I’m not complaining for no reason. I’ve spent most of my life in pain, and I’m exhausted. I wasn’t looking for a miracle or even opioids specifically—I was just hoping someone in pain management would have ideas that could actually help.

Now I just feel defeated and like I’m running out of options. Has anyone else had an experience like this with pain management? Did you eventually find a doctor who actually listened or offered something that made a difference?