My boyfriend (37M) and I (25F) have been together for 2 and a half years. In the beginning, our sex life was great we were intimate regularly, and everything felt natural and connected.
But after about a year, things slowly started changing. We began having sex less and less, and now it’s become a real issue in our relationship. It’s been hard for me emotionally because I still love him, I’m still attracted to him, and I miss that physical closeness.
Recently, we had a very honest conversation about it. He admitted that porn and masturbating may have affected his desire and sex drive, and he wants to stop for at least a month to see whether that helps bring his attraction toward me back.
What makes this difficult is that he told me he can still feel sexual attraction toward other women, but right now he struggles to feel that same desire toward me. Hearing that really hurt.
At the same time, he says he still loves me deeply and doesn’t want to lose what we have. He’s genuinely trying to understand what’s going on and wants to fix it, which is why we’re having these conversations instead of ignoring it.
I’m trying to figure out whether this is something couples can work through, or whether sexual attraction, once lost, is hard to regain.
Has anyone experienced something similar either personally or from the other side? What helped?