I 16M Stuck in a cycle of fighting and criticism with gf 15F

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My girlfriend 15F and I 16M have a long on and off history since 7th grade, but officially rekindled things in February.

​Lately, we've been arguing constantly and three weeks ago, I almost cheated on her but stopped myself.

I confessed, and she forgave me, but her trust is completely gone.

​Now, every argument turns into her picking apart everything I do. It started with minor things like not texting back while gaming, but now she criticizes my speech, mannerisms and other things.

I understand why she is mad though, as I keep making promises I cant fufill sometimes. I genuinely try to make adjustments, but I feel like nothing I do is ever enough, I feel like she's right for the most part and im never able to change myself somehow.

I know changing oneself takes time, but I want to somehow speed it up for her.

​We both still love each other deeply and want to stay together, but I’m totally lost. How do I rebuild her trust after all I've done, and how do we break this cycle of constant criticism and fighting?

tl;dr: relationship is ruined because i keep messing things up with her, like my mannerisms my speech and stuff.

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u/DoubtOk1084 — 5 days ago

I 16M Stuck in a cycle of fighting and criticism with gf 15F

My girlfriend 15F and I 16M have a long on and off history since 7th grade, but officially rekindled things in February.

​Lately, we've been arguing constantly and three weeks ago, I almost cheated on her but stopped myself.

I confessed, and she forgave me, but her trust is completely gone.

​Now, every argument turns into her picking apart everything I do. It started with minor things like not texting back while gaming, but now she criticizes my speech, mannerisms and other things. I understand why she is mad though, as I keep making promises I cant fufill sometimes. I genuinely try to make adjustments, but I feel like nothing I do is ever enough, I feel like she's right for the most part and im never able to change myself somehow.

I know changing oneself takes time, but I want to somehow speed it up for her.

​We both still love each other deeply and want to stay together, but I’m totally lost. How do I rebuild her trust after almost cheating, and how do we break this cycle of constant criticism and fighting?

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u/DoubtOk1084 — 5 days ago