u/Downtown-Ad-1982

I’m a M33 ex wife F34
So i don’t know what i really did wrong tried to listen to her and what she wanted me to do better. The worse part was when she last year had her girlfriend living with us was when all the problems between us started to get worse.

She and her girlfriend both have ADHD and trigger eachother to the worse. So we started to get in fights when she decided to fix the roof on the house so she took in a firm to do it and did not tell me at all. And then 3weeks later she took in a firm to paint the house and did not tell me about that either, so i got mad and asked if i was involved in any decisions at all about the house? No answer so i told her if her and her girlfriend wants to do so much on this house buy me out and go bananas on the house.

The only answer i got was her friend can’t afford it. I said in that case i want you guys to talk to me about things and not just pay here pay there, well then she started to be on her phone every day not speaking to me or being with me at all. So after 1 month of her not doing anything at all with me just being on her phone and work late almost everyday.

So when i started to feel alone and un loved and invisible i tried to talk to her about my feelings and all she said was i feel the same way. Your always on your phone so i started to leave it in another room and said i was going to do my best to make her feel that she is not invisible. But she kept on with her phone late work so gave it 3weeks and said can’t we like plan 2days a week to be with eachother just watching movies or something. She told me that was a great idéa so i tried to plan 2days a week but she always hade something Ells to do or work or help her colleges.

Well after 3weeks she told me her friend that was living with us wanted to go bathe sauna with her collages bec she started to date one of them, and wanted my ex wife to come too bec his singel friend was going to be there and they were going to drink and sleep there.i told her i was not okay with that and got told i was wrong to say something like that and was controlling so she ghosted me for 1week.
But she did not go atleast and i told her thanks for not going. No respons from her then everything went back to the new normal phone,work and never being with me.

Then after her friend moved out thing got better we started to cuddle more and watching movies and so on. Then after 2 months she started with her phone again and started to work on her days she was free from work to go with her collages to work late nights.

So i started to feel invisible again and unwanted and unloved so i tried to talk to her but all i got in respons was everything i did wrong for feeling the way i did and everything i did not do.
This is where the breaking turn came i got so despret i said i was considering a divorce bec i feel so bad in loves and so on.

Then we got to the point where she told me shes gonna try better and i thought finally we started to talk but it always turned on me all i did not do right so i said i hear you and will do better but she went back to her phone and did not talk to me or see all the effort i put in.

Then last weekend we went to Stockholm to Watch linking park only she and me and had a great time cuddle and so on but she told med 2days before we went that when ever i touches her i always want it to end in sex. I told her that was never ment from my side it was a way for me to express love and intrest in her not sex. So i said i was going to show her it does not mean sex it means love from my side.

So when we were in Stockholm she hinted about sex but i hade touched her in a loving way strokes her hair smackets her bum so all i could think of was not to have sex bec she said that it always felt forced when i touched her. We got home and the day after she was home on her phone in the couch i say next to her and she said i want a divorce.

What did i do wrong? I mean I’m not perfect but atleast i have bin trying my heart out to be what she wants me to be but ended like this anyway so what did i do wrong?

I’m a M33 ex wife F34
So i don’t know what i really did wrong tried to listen to her and what she wanted me to do better. The worse part was when she last year had her girlfriend living with us was when all the problems between us started to get worse.

She and her girlfriend both have ADHD and trigger eachother to the worse. So we started to get in fights when she decided to fix the roof on the house so she took in a firm to do it and did not tell me at all. And then 3weeks later she took in a firm to paint the house and did not tell me about that either, so i got mad and asked if i was involved in any decisions at all about the house? No answer so i told her if her and her girlfriend wants to do so much on this house buy me out and go bananas on the house.

The only answer i got was her friend can’t afford it. I said in that case i want you guys to talk to me about things and not just pay here pay there, well then she started to be on her phone every day not speaking to me or being with me at all. So after 1 month of her not doing anything at all with me just being on her phone and work late almost everyday.

So when i started to feel alone and un loved and invisible i tried to talk to her about my feelings and all she said was i feel the same way. Your always on your phone so i started to leave it in another room and said i was going to do my best to make her feel that she is not invisible. But she kept on with her phone late work so gave it 3weeks and said can’t we like plan 2days a week to be with eachother just watching movies or something. She told me that was a great idéa so i tried to plan 2days a week but she always hade something Ells to do or work or help her colleges.

Well after 3weeks she told me her friend that was living with us wanted to go bathe sauna with her collages bec she started to date one of them, and wanted my ex wife to come too bec his singel friend was going to be there and they were going to drink and sleep there.i told her i was not okay with that and got told i was wrong to say something like that and was controlling so she ghosted me for 1week.
But she did not go atleast and i told her thanks for not going. No respons from her then everything went back to the new normal phone,work and never being with me.

Then after her friend moved out thing got better we started to cuddle more and watching movies and so on. Then after 2 months she started with her phone again and started to work on her days she was free from work to go with her collages to work late nights.

So i started to feel invisible again and unwanted and unloved so i tried to talk to her but all i got in respons was everything i did wrong for feeling the way i did and everything i did not do.
This is where the breaking turn came i got so despret i said i was considering a divorce bec i feel so bad in loves and so on.

Then we got to the point where she told me shes gonna try better and i thought finally we started to talk but it always turned on me all i did not do right so i said i hear you and will do better but she went back to her phone and did not talk to me or see all the effort i put in.

Then last weekend we went to Stockholm to Watch linking park only she and me and had a great time cuddle and so on but she told med 2days before we went that when ever i touches her i always want it to end in sex. I told her that was never ment from my side it was a way for me to express love and intrest in her not sex. So i said i was going to show her it does not mean sex it means love from my side.

So when we were in Stockholm she hinted about sex but i hade touched her in a loving way strokes her hair smackets her bum so all i could think of was not to have sex bec she said that it always felt forced when i touched her. We got home and the day after she was home on her phone in the couch i say next to her and she said i want a divorce.

What did i do wrong? I mean I’m not perfect but atleast i have bin trying my heart out to be what she wants me to be but ended like this anyway so what did i do wrong?