Bad mothers day or just too sensitive ?
Hello
I have one adult daughter, and she is married with no children. Every Mother’s Day, we usually spend the day together with her husband’s family. We always go to the same place for food and drinks — it’s my favorite spot, and I genuinely look forward to it every year.
This year, I expected the same plan. But just a couple of hours before we were supposed to leave, she texted me saying we wouldn’t be going because it would be too many people and too noisy for the new baby in her husband’s family. Instead, she said she would pick up pizza from Costco and that we would spend the day at their apartment.
I tried to be flexible. I said we could stay at her place for a little while and then me and my husband would go to the restaurant afterward for a drink. She didn’t want that. I felt like I couldn’t leave without upsetting her, and I was already frustrated. I had a few drinks before going over — more than I should have — and by the time I got there, I ended up emotional, talking only with her, and eventually I left in tears without even seeing her in‑laws.
Later, I suggested that next year she and I could have brunch together and spend half the day just the two of us, and then she could spend the rest of the day with her in‑laws. But even that didn’t seem acceptable to her.
It ended up being a painful Mother’s Day for me, and I’m still upset about how everything unfolded. I’m trying to understand whether I’m being too sensitive, or whether my feelings are valid given the situation.
What do you think?