u/Downtown_Try_4833

wasn’t sure what to flair this post so i’m sorry if it’s wrong !

ok so i struggle with this in almost every relationship. i am never the one to initiate or make a move for sex. i WANT to have sex but i just wait until my partner initiates. i dont think i have a fear of rejection because its okay if they don’t wanna do it right then. i think i lack confidence and also dont know exactly what to do…

what are some ways you girls show your partner that you wanna get it on? how do you do it with confidence

i am getting back into the dating world and i have met this guy who has been nothing but wonderful. we get along great, he’s extremely handsome and funny. i can see myself developing feelings and wanting to pursue him seriously (we’ve only been seeing each other for about a month).

here us where i struggle: he has a past of hooking up with a lot of women, staying in toxic relationships, even admitted he’s cheated on a partner… he has told me multiple times that i’m the nicest girl he’s ever talked to and he’s never been in a relationship so healthy in his life. i’m obviously honored that he feels that way because i am struggling. i have this huge fear that he’s going to get bored of this “healthy relationship”. i feel not enough for him. i keep thinking about how he feels about me and it’s making me so insecure. im scared he’s going to back out because im not crazy enough (literally why am i thinking this). he hasn’t given me any reason to be so scared. in fact he has been super sweet and wants to work towards bettering himself for this potential relationship.

i feel myself wanting to pull back because i’m scared of getting hurt. he hasn’t done or said anything “red flag” like. yet i can’t stop over analyzing 😔 how do i work on trusting him and also being confident in myself?? i know im a baddie and he’d be a fool to lose me but for some reason i can only preach it and not practice it