Idk what to do my daughter is really difficult and for the most part I handle it well but I’m neurodivergent and she triggers me. I know she is too. I have a hard time regulating emotions so I try to stay very aware of things but she’s 6 and she pushes my boundaries a lot! I know it’s part of growing up but it’s so hard! I try not to physically discipline at all, I was basically abused as a kid and I don’t want that for her. I have smacked her butt a few times out of not knowing what else to do but I don’t want that! Usually I take her Minecraft away and go from there. In the mornings it’s the worst, I get her up , give her clothes and say ok get dressed and brush your teeth! I even help her still sometimes but she is really independent so it’s difficult! Lately she’s been so defiant and I end up yelling and she crying, I hate it! I feel like I’ve tried everything being nice and positive reinforcement being hard negative reinforcement and when nothing‘s working, I end up losing my temper and yelling like a crazy lady and it makes me think about my mom and then I hate myself all day😭. She gets herself so worked up and cry’s over everything which makes me more upset, it’s a horrible spiral!! She was in 3 different daycares and she is in kindergarten, this is her 2nd school this year bc she was asked to leave charter school. That was t completely her I think, charter school wasn’t good for her but I’m in a really bad area for help with kids. There’s not much here if your poor. I’m just struggling so bad and feel hopeless at the moment!
u/Dragonmomma01
Idk what to do my daughter is really difficult and for the most part I handle it well but I’m neurodivergent and she triggers me. I know she is too. I have a hard time regulating emotions so I try to stay very aware of things but she’s 6 and she pushes my boundaries a lot! I know it’s part of growing up but it’s so hard! I try not to physically discipline at all, I was basically abused as a kid and I don’t want that for her. I have smacked her butt a few times out of not knowing what else to do but I don’t want that! Usually I take her Minecraft away and go from there. In the mornings it’s the worst, I get her up , give her clothes and say ok get dressed and brush your teeth! I even help her still sometimes but she is really independent so it’s difficult! Lately she’s been so defiant and I end up yelling and she crying, I hate it! I feel like I’ve tried everything being nice and positive reinforcement being hard negative reinforcement and when nothing‘s working, I end up losing my temper and yelling like a crazy lady and it makes me think about my mom and then I hate myself all day😭. She gets herself so worked up and cry’s over everything which makes me more upset, it’s a horrible spiral!! She was in 3 different daycares and she is in kindergarten, this is her 2nd school this year bc she was asked to leave charter school. That was t completely her I think, charter school wasn’t good for her but I’m in a really bad area for help with kids. There’s not much here if your poor. I’m just struggling so bad and feel hopeless at the moment!