u/DreadKnight_X

We've been long distance for almost 4 years now, living about 800 miles apart. Things have been really good lately and my partner brought up moving in together within the next year or so. Which sounds amazing, honestly. The problem is my job is literally the only stable thing i have right now. It pays decently, benefits are solid, and i've built genuine relationships with my team over the past few years. If i move to where they are, there's no guarantee id find something comparable and the job market there is way tighter. My partner thinks im being pessimistic but ngl im genuinely scared of starting over professionally and i dont know how to explain that without making them feel like the relationship isnt worth the risk, because it is. Anyone else been in this spot where closing the distance means potentially sacrificing career stability? How did you work through it?

i managed to lose around 17 lbs in the past couple months by tracking pretty strictly and adding walks. it was going decent. but i have a big trip coming up in a few weeks and im already stressing about all the eating out and new foods which is making me snack more at home rn to "prepare". the scale has started stalling even though my base routine is still there.

i dont want to ruin the trip by being too strict but i also dont want to lose all this momentum. how do you guys handle pre vacation eating without derailing everything? any balanced ways that worked?

im 57 and widowed a few years ago. i volunteer at our local church and help count the offering sometimes. one sunday i was short on bills for groceries so i slipped a few twenties into my pocket. it was easy and no one noticed.

now every time i sit in the pews or hear them talk about helping the needy i feel this crushing weight. my grandkids look up to me as the strong one and this makes me sick inside. its been months and the guilt follows me even when im alone at home.