u/Dreamsatmidnight

I (28F) have been dating a woman (38M) for 1.5 years. We have a lot in common, have a good laugh together and are very attracted to each other.

About 6 months into the relationship, she got some kind of flu and has never really recovered. She was formally diagnosed with CFS a few months ago. I have been really understanding, especially as someone with fibromyalgia who has had two bouts of disabling fatigue that have lasted 2 years in a past 8 years.

I can cope with her being sick and being limited. The majority of relationship has involved me going to her house and making her dinner. I always have to get a dog sitter when I see her, as she has a cat, which is costly and time/energy consuming. I have even been understanding of her not being able to attend events where couples would usually go together, such as funerals and family events.

A few years ago, I was SAed by a friend. The police have been investigating since and earlier this year he was formally charged, Next month, I will be going to visit the court so I can make an informed decision as to whether I can give my evidence live in court or do a pre-recorded video, as my PTSD is severe. She has been very understanding of all of this, which is more than I can say for a lot of people in my life.

When he was charged earlier this year, my girlfriend told me she would come with me to visit the court beforehand. I was given a date for this visit this week, which triggered my PTSD massively. Rather than telling me anything supportive, she announced that she would not be coming as she is too sick.

Literally the day before, she told me she would be going abroad with her family in two months. Two months ago, she went on holiday alone. I am struggling to see why she can go away but not accompany me to a court an hour away for a visit, which will last an hour or maybe less.

I love her but I feel like this is a dealbreaker. Would love to get some constructive feedback

TL;DR I am supportive of my chronically ill GF and do everything for us 99% if the time but she is bailing on supporting me during a crucial moment

I’ve heard a lot of rumours circulating recently about Telephone part 2. It’s got me thinking about which song would fit the most for the video.

I think Aura would’ve been perfect back in the ARTPOP era. She could’ve made the video about how she and Beyoncé did a Thelma and Louise, killed someone (metaphor for fame) and went on the run.

We are past that and I can’t see Gaga bringing it back. For Mayhem, I think Don’t Call Tonight would be perfect. The meaning of the song is very similar to Telephone so she could make it work.