u/Dreamy_reality

I feel like all I have been seeing from my friends and even my own experience is that people meet, talk, one person likes the other person more , it turns into this situationship dynamic until someone gets ghosted or just let go.

I don’t get WHY that’s so common now of day.. maybe people feel they have a lot of options or maybe casual sex has become so normalized that’s ppl are sleeping around w a lot of ppl and i think that does desensitize them to making connections.

Nonetheless , i see so many girls and guys trying to be something they believe the opposite gender values and wants but honestly ive seen girls with some pretty “bad” histories and characteristics get taken and ive seen some guys that i guess in a conventional way dont have much going for themselves but still get into relationships.

I think essentially what it is , is you can’t become something for someone if you don’t have that chemistry. I think ppl stick to the ppl they just somehow for some reason like. The heart will want what it wants and sometimes you just meet someone who really likes you.

I do think it’s actually easier for guys to get into a relationship cause yes it’s easy for girls to get men but not easy for them to keep them around. If the guy isn’t head over heels for you i just don’t think it’ll go anywhere.

You need chemistry ofc and it needs to be MUTUAL. I honestly think a lot of this is luck. Finding someone who ends up just liking you for you.

And that’s what’s hard to find.

Idk if it’s just due to being hurt in the past but it’s very hard for me to let myself like or trust anyone anymore. I become avoidant with vulnerability and avoid situations or conversations that may lead me i to liking someone or them liking me. I shut it down pretty fast now. Anyway- i have met someone online who lives in a whole different continent. Lo and behold now I even have a crush on him. Part of me feels safe to have a crush cause he’s so far that i already know it won’t work out cause of the distance rather than me not being liked or him being a liar..

I find it interesting that I’m so afraid and hesitant with this stuff now. Btw i don’t even admit to the guy i kind of acc rlly do like him.

I also want him to like me back and hope he does but i also think id rather endure my top 3 embarrassing moments in life over telling him I’ve developed a crush.

Is it unethical to befriend an old client of mines parent now that I’ve ran into them when they are discharged from my company?

I’m honestly kind of regretting going into ABA. I hate the cancellations and the short in home sessions. I do love working with people and helping them but as the program manager right now idk it’s just not what i think i want to do anymore. I finish my masters in aba in November of this year. I want to work in a hospital or something else where I can make a good living. Is there any other options you guys have in mind that could work? All my major work experience has been in aba. I have a bachelors in public health but no experience

Why is it so hard finding a pretty girl that likes other pretty girls :,(

I recently got a job as a mid level supervisor and my first week was pretty overwhelming. I was working in schools prior to this and it was very different. The supervision stuff is hard and idk how i even got the job. They even said that im very new and all so they are aware of my situation i guess but im just getting scared and sad that maybe this was a mistake and i should not have gotten it. I feel like idek how to be a good BT let alone a supervisor.. i don’t wanna give up tho but i have been feeling sad

I have been scared of driving on the freeways for as long as i can remember. I’ve only done it with someone in the car with me and even then idk how i did it .. that was my parents forcing me to learn. Anyway - haven’t gone on it in years and my new job is requiring me to drive further out and i just need to over come this already. Idk how to and im so stressed. I can’t drive the back roads all the time cus some places don’t have that option 😭