u/DressSea209

Hello! There has been a lot of lash on tiktok lately against women who claim to be bi BUT are only sexually attracted to women but sexually and romantically attracted to men. From it being so prominent on my fyp, I realize I fall into that category. My question is, what steps can I take to see if i'm able to be romantically attracted to women? I've never gotten the chance to meet a girl that i'd be like yeah I could see myself dating her. Im a 17F and so I believe it's harder for me to really go out and find women, since i'm still in highschool. But the i look around and see girls my age getting girlfriends. Do I just accept the fact that im not romantically attracted? I can totally accept that, I'm just curious to know what steps I could take. I apologize if this makes no sense or if i'm somehow being offensive.

I'm sure this topic comes daily on here, and anywhere else you can vent about it on reddit, but I am genuinely struggling with this. I've never been insecure about my outie and no man has ever made a comment on it. I'm fully body positive and I always have been, up until I've gained an insecurity for my outie. I did get into a porn a little over a year ago so I believe that definitely plays into it. But when I had first gotten into it, I had absolutely no issue with how my vagina looked. It's just up until now that i've just gotten so anxious every time I think about it, even when i'm literally doing nothing. I'm insecure that there will be a guy who won't like it, but i'm also aware that I don't need to gain any mans approval over my body.

I guess my question is, how do I gain confidence over this? I've somehow lost all of my confidence and it worries me. I've scrolled relentlessly on here to see girls talking about it and it's helped a little. Any help is appreciated. I just would love to feel comfortable in my body again.