u/DribbleThing

Morning

I'm looking for any examples (not templates) of grievance letters or any advice on how to clearly write one.

From ACAS and Citizens Advice, it seems to be that what should be included is the KEY issues and dates and that I should mention the evidence/type of evidence I have that I would be willing to share. How do I whittle down and decide what is key? Everything feels significant to me, but obviously it isn't for this purpose.

I have an awful lot of evidence, admittedly a lot of it contemporanious records/contextual evidence.

Does anyone have any real examples or could guide me a tiny bit?

Grateful for any insight 🙏

I have some ongoing issues with my line manager. I have raised these informally both verbally and in writing. I ended up off sick as a result of this person but he was allowed to handle my occupational health (badly and unprofessionally, might I add). It's behavioural. No direct discrimination and no direct bullying.

I think he is trying to drive me out of the business but I am confident senior management want to keep me - I've been trialling another team and have been offered a role if I want it. They've always been supportive of me, especially now they've stepped in after I complained about the occu health handling.

I likely want to go back to my original job (TBD) so I can't just leave it alone. Probably wouldn't leave it even if I stay with the lovely crew I've been trialling.

I need to raise a grievance as I have real issues with injustice (thx ADHD) but what outcomes can I actually ask for? I need to decide if it's worth the energy because my mental health has been awful. Would I like him to go away forever? Yup. Do I know I can't ask for that? Yes.

I'm thinking:

- investigation into his conduct

- investigation into a failure in process: no action taken with manager that I'm aware of (not just issues with me - also performance, behavioural and other staff), my raising concerns and huge flags about my mental health, being off sick and sick notes stating stress at work, same manager being allowed to handle occu health stuff.

- acknowledgement and apology on failures (already had a verbal apology so not so much that)

- what's going to be changed to prevent this happening again

- for me to not be line managed by him

Are those outcomes actually things I can request in a grievance?

I'm in Scotland and in an area where the NHS waiting list for ADHD assessment is closed. Shared care with a private provider has been denied.

Has anyone been initially refused shared care for meds by their GP, complained and then had it approved? This is what I am hoping to do, but not sure where to start so looking for any info whatsoever.

I've gone for a private diagnosis with a consultant who still works with the NHS and uses the same diagnostic criteria for their private patients. Things have been pretty crap for me lately and I felt I had run out of options and it had suddenly become very urgent.

Anyway, the Doc is legit and the NHS should accept his diagnosis. I've taken on (even more) debt to get diagnosed, and while I have some sort of faith that it's very much worth it, that it's going to help me immensely and will all come good in the end... I need to make sure I have done everything I can before leaving it up to some deity and hoping cash falls on my lap. As it stands, I can't afford the meds without using a credit card and Mr Credit Card has to be paid.

I submitted a FOI request and there is actually no official policy about this - it's on a GP practice discretionary basis. They won't even let me switch practice either. If I don't fall in the catchment, it's tough tits.

I wouldn't mind as much if there was a way for me to get diagnosed on the NHS here, but there isn't and they fobbed me off for several years before they closed the list. Bleugh.

I've just been privately diagnosed and I'll have my first appointment for titration soon. I've searched the sub already but haven't seen anything that is quite what I'm after. Doc has confirmed combined type.

What I'm looking for is information, resources anecdotes. Tell me your combined type secrets. Are there any self help books, apps, whatever, out there that aren't just looking to profit from struggling people that are actually informative and helpful?

What has helped you or your loved ones? I'm 35F if that helps at all.

Things are shit at the moment (signed off work from stress) and I'm not really sure I'm processing it because I thought I'd have more of a reaction tbh. I had a verbal diagnosis a fortnight ago and received the report just today. I'm like okay cool... Vindication! But now how can I fix my life?! 😂

So, I live in the Grampian region and there is NO facility for diagnosis with the NHS and they will not enter into a shared care agreement. It's quite likely I have ADHD, though.

I was referred to a local psychotherapies service for CBT to try and treat some of the symptoms, but during the triage appointment today the conclusion is that because I've had CBT before for anxiety, and this service is not ADHD specific, that it isn't right for me but she is checking if something else will work...

So anyway, while I am starting to lose my mind with that because I can't get any help, the people I have spoken with (the psychologist today, my local practice nurse as I can't get an appointment with a GP and also a counsellor through an employee assistance programme) have all said I should get some reasonable adjustments put in place. I don't know how that's going to fly without a diagnosis but there's no harm in trying.

However, I feel like I can barely think of any potential adjustments.

Could you guys share any experience or thoughts? For context I work in a design and sales role for a trades merchant. It is open plan and there are no meeting with rooms or quiet zones in the building. There are people in and out all day most often for the other part of the business, not for me. Some of the trades chit chat and hang about to pass time for whatever reason (so distracting, not to mention time wasting if they're hanging about at my desk) and some of them are actual customers for me. I always try to schedule appointments with walk ins anyway.

So far, I have come up with:

- forgiveness on start times if I am cutting it fine getting in to work (given they definitely get more time back from me anyway!)

- flexibility on work hours if I hyperfocus and skip lunch/work late - could I get time back so I'm not burnt out?

- fixed scheduled times for certain tasks - e.g. Calls on x days, appointments on x days, designs on x days, uninterrupted work time so I can focus. I think this will help with what people can expect from me (?!)

- working from home (and by extension a desk, laptop, monitor, chair). Links to above with uninterrupted time as there isn't an office I can shut myself in.

- messages being emailed rather than scraps of paper being dumped on my desk

It feels like without being able to speak to the right medical people, I don't know where to get info on some options!

I'd be so, so grateful for any help.

ETA: I'm in Scotland so the options for diagnosis are a wee bit different.

I live in the Grampian region in Scotland. There is zero NHS service for adults here. None. I'm pretty good at research but I've hit a brick wall here and I'm looking for any info or experiences you guys might have.

I can't really afford to go private. I could possibly find a way with a credit card I'd be paying for the next 87 years but I have just discovered (via Reddit funnily enough) that a private diagnosis isn't recognised by the NHS and until I can get diagnosed via the NHS, which will never happen because the service doesn't exist, I'd be paying privately for prescriptions. The post I happened to see was £88 for 4wks of that specific prescription. Never mind the cost of any therapies to try and learn the skills I think I might be lacking.

I am not coping and need to do something. I'm mid 30s and was diagnosed with GAD in my mid-late 20s and I really believe that the anxiety overruled the ADHD and now I have that under control these ADHD symptoms are absolutely raging and I haven't learned whatever coping skills that one GP seems to think I should have developed because I've survived to adulthood (I now refuse to see that doc 😉)

I am on hols from work this week but might need to get signed off and this is just the cycle I've been in for years now. I popped in by work yesterday morning and almost fully lost it 20mins after arriving and all I was trying to do was tidy up my area when people were up in my face, being arseholes and on at me to solve problems.

Can your GP send a referral to a different district? It was something my partner mooted last night that I hadn't even considered.

Is there anything any of you can suggest that will work in Scotland for someone who can't afford private diagnosis, prescriptions and therapies?

Surely it isn't totally hopeless...