Why can't voice my desires?
Not sure if this is social anxiety exactly but this felt like the best place to put it.
I'm a 28 yo male and I absolutely cannot express my desire to do anything. My free time is almost entirely dictated by my loved ones and I feel guilty anytime I voice something I want to do. They don't make me feel guilty or anything, its just an automatic response.
I can voice my opinion in other respects and can even argue my point, but only when I have hard facts to back up what im saying.
I've been told a few times that I'm a chameleon and blend in to what ever social group I find myself in and I think thats definitely conteibuted to my success professionally. But now that I've got a long term gf (now fiancee), its started to cause an issue. She wants me to pick a restaurant, my response is "Anywhere you want". She wants me to pick music, my response is "Whatever you want to listen to". She asks what we should do for the weekend, my response is "Whatever you want to do". I can tell she's starting to get frustrated/worried I dont care.
To be clear I do have opinions on these things, I do have places I would like to go and music I would like to listen to, but when it comes time to pick its like a reflex I can't stop. If I do try and stop it I just freeze. Does anyone have any experience with something similar?