u/Ducky066

Welp, I’m in a predicament I didn’t think I’d be in. I’m pregnant with my first kid. Which is also the first grandchild in my side of the family. I have a brother who I don’t talk to, and haven’t spoken with in about 10 years. Only times I’ve broken my no contact is when either our mom or dad were in the hospital, and when our grandpa died. All times I was met with attitude, and a reminder of why I cut him off all those years ago. Even at our dads 2nd wedding, he tried bonking me with a pillow because I wasn’t interested in chatting. It was never one thing they directly did to me that lead me to cut them off, but as I was the younger sibling, I saw how they treated their friends and our parents. He would manipulate and use everyone for their wants and if he didn’t get his way he’d block them for a while till he needed something again. On several occasions when we were younger he was not the nicest that got played off as older sibling rough housing. And when our parents divorce happened he tried to make it about themselves. He did poorly in school because he would steal wee\\\\\\\* from his friends, bum rides from them to go off places, and would try and not act drunk when he clearly was in high school. When I got married last year, I got random texts from him asking about the wedding and basically trying to get an invite, he does not live in our state and it was just a courthouse wedding. When I didn’t respond (these were the first texts I’ve gotten from them in over 5 years) he ended it with on my wedding day with a go f\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\*\\\\\\\* yourself text. Just for some context as to why I’m no contact.

Now I’m 6 months pregnant, naturally I’ve ask my mom, dad, and step mom not to share any info or pictures when him. They’ve been super respectful of this and know I’ll cut them off too if I find out they share anything. As this individual is someone I don’t want in my or my child’s life. My mom informed me today that he has been fishing for info from mutual previous friends, and threw a temper tantrum on my mom when she wouldn’t fold and tell him anything. After my mom called him out on his BS, he promptly blocked her. Nothing new, he’s blocked everyone before several times.

My dad grew up in a bad family situation and he did a similar thing to his brothers and sisters and cut them off. He says my brother just wants to be an uncle and that he doesn’t want me to regret not letting my child meet their uncle like my dad did with us.

My thought process is: if they were bad enough for you to cut them off, why would you want your child exposed to them??

My dad respects its my choice, and will go with whatever I say. But now I’m feeling slightly conflicted. It could just be pregnancy hormones but I’d like some unbiased opinions

So what would y’all do? AITA for not letting my brother be an uncle?

EDITING TO ADD: I’m sorry for any typos, English is not my first language and I am using translate app.

Im a manager for a small museum, 5 employees including me small (2 employees only being 1 day a week part-time cashiers). Our facility though…is 19K SQFT. We already have signs that say last admission 1 hour prior to closing but we still continue on a regular basis get guests coming in a few minutes before closing and acting shocked when we deny entry. What do y’all at bigger museums do? It’s not fair to our staff and volunteers to have to stay late or deal with backlash from guests over their poor planning but we want to attempt to keep guests happy and wanting to come back when they have more time. Before I was hired on the museum (about a year ago) used their hours as more of a loose suggestion and with our new facility it’s starting to be a bigger problem. The executive director still thinks we can operate on a “just keep the guest happy” basis no matter how many of us keep trying to pull them back into reality.

RANT
I manage a small museum. It takes roughly 1-1.5 hours to get through everything. We advertise to budget 1-2 hours to explore the museum. Yet it feels like every day there is at minimum one couple that comes in 5-10 minutes before closing and have shocked pikachu face when I tell them no, you can’t start a tour. Today in particular, we had 2 separate couples come in less than 10 minutes before closing and got upset with me I wouldn’t stay open for them. I’m just over here like….what did you expect to happen in 10 minute? Did you just want to see the gift shop?! The movie alone is 25 minutes ☠️ and just like the customers I got a life too outside of work. I’m not making my employees stay an extra minimum of an hour because you can’t do time management or use Google and see what time we close. We’re not like a restaurant. We will not serve you just because you walked in right before closing. Come back when you have ample time so you can get your moneys worth and experience everything to the fullest :) we want you to leave happy, not feeling rushed or unwanted.

EDIT TO ADD: because I love to rant

I also feel like it should be common sense to not bring your dog to a museum. Obviously service animals are different. But lately the amount of people ignoring our “NO PETS” sign is getting ridiculous. Dogs and artifacts don’t go together. And that doesn’t mean leave them in the hot car in full sun while you visit. That’s just animal cruelty. I love my dogs but ffs just leave them at home!

AND VAPING…WHY DO YOUNG PEOPLE THINK VAPING IS OKAY IN A MUSEUM??? (I say this as if I’m not only 24…)Our facility is climate and humidity controlled. The artifacts don’t need your fruit scented chemical bomb vapor on them.