u/DudeSnub

For context, I'm a 32 year old single dad.

My ex, her boyfriend and 5 men broke into my apartment a while back, they beat me down in my own home, threatened to kill my child (who was with her mom at the time thank god) and destroyed my apartment.

This happened because while I was home alone, a girl I used to seet that my ex had beef with told my ex about us hooking up while I was unaware and not present. This caused an upset.

Her bf was arrested and then bailed out so I filed a CVRO against him, when he was served she tried to hit me with a DVRO immediately after but it was denied in court once I presented evidence of the previous harassment and the break in and assault. They then called my job making threats, instead of protecting me my company let me return to work and then gave me a bullshit reason to let me go.

My ex and her boyfriend went to my entire social circle,they even spoke to my girlfriend, spreading lie after lie after lie. I can't give specifics here since court is still on-going, but it left me entirely isolated.

Everyone took her side without even checking with me, they are telling people that I am lying about the break in and assualt when I have the police report, the granted CVRO and a granted CPO. The texts, the voicemails, the pictures. All of the proof.

I lost my entire social circle, I don't feel safe leaving my home after hearing that more people want to jump me. I couldn't see my kid for 2 months out of fears for her safety.

I was breaking down about it to my mom when my step-dad got in my face about "manning up".

How the fuck do you man up in this situation when everyone is your enemy now after being a victim of clear domestic violence. I lost my job, time with my child, my sense of safety, my sanity even. I told him to shut the fuck up, what am I going to do?! Go out and fight him and nullify the restraining orders so my daughter can be at risk?!

My childs mother even blames me, she says I could have gotten our daughter hurt or worse but I did literally nothing to these people. I was living my life and letting people be!

It has all been so much.

I was on a hot streak for meeting women while simultaneously still sleeping with my ex.

I met the perfect girl, she was my type to an absolute T. Shy and cute, her style was everything. Looks, smiles conversations. I stopped seeing and talking to every girl including my ex to focus on her.

The universe caught up with me. We ran into a woman I slept with at a bar....then another at a restaurant the NEXT NIGHT and she was fearless to confront us. We ended up taking a break but came back and I accidentally called my ex while having sex.

My ex then ran into her at a bar knowing full well who she was and showed her the voicemail that I left of us having sex.

It was almost as if my life was one of those comedies were bad things continuously happen by pure coincidence.

So anyways here I am on my own. She was taken out of my life almost as quick as she was thrown into it. I know this is the universe showing me I'm not ready for what I think is The One, but it hurts so badly.

I could of done better, and I will do better. Now I am trusting the universe, no dating, no sex, no convos. None of it.

I am purely letting the universe guide the wheel . My ego, my confidence, my joy was all ripped out from me in an instant.

FAFO.