u/DudeforRighteousness

Permethrin works great against ticks and I bought some from Amazon pre-mixed and it was very expensive and only treated like a couple outfits

I saw a couple YouTube videos and have read that you can dilute the stuff intended for cattle and property but it also has petroleum distillates in it.

Even though Sawyer has petroleum distillates also I ran it through the AI and it says the Sawyers is formulated for clothing but I can't really see much of a difference between diluting yourself and buying the premixed stuff.

I did notice when using the Gordon's permethrin after the dilution it does have a very strong smell and I currently have an outfit outside drying.

I soaked the outfit pretty well but if it still smells I'm considering doing at least one wash to try to get some of the petroleum smell out because I know that once the permethrin is dried it binds to the fabric across several washes.

Does anybody have experience with using these products and diluting them yourself?

Is it safe?

To preface all of what you were about to read two things need to be known

One. I am intending to get married again.

Two. My current girlfriend doesn't care about money (really) and is signing a prenuptial agreement.

So the divorce process for me on what should've been a relatively straightforward divorce after nearly two decades was nightmarish.

Mostly because of the court system but mainly because my ex-wife's attorney is incredibly lazy and evil..... they were perfect for each other.

Anyway, everything got laid out in three court hearings.

In the first two I was officially divorced by decree but they bifurcated the final hearing in order to defer negotiations and judgment on alimony. I have the first two orders. They have been signed. I am legally divorced.

My ex-wife was awarded alimony for half the length of the marriage so for close to a decade. She also got child support even though we have 50-50 custody.

Anyway, I am still waiting on the final order and it's getting close to a year now.

Her attorney was responsible for drafting up the final order to get it signed off but of course she did a shitty job and it didn't look anywhere close to what it was supposed to be. My attorney sent her corrections that needed to be made she still had not made them.....

Then her attorney had the audacity to say he needed to sign off on the order even though she hadn't made the changes we requested.

He told her he would not sign the order until she made the changes that we requested.

But of course it's been many months since then and she's done nothing.

I want to propose to my girlfriend.

But an odd thing happened during the final divorce hearing.

My ex-wife's attorney mentioned that I had a girlfriend for some reason and the judge asked if my girlfriend was living with me while he was talking about considering how much alimony to grant.

He should not have been factoring that in but it seemed like he was considering that.

My girlfriend was not living with me at the time nor is she currently.

But I am concerned that if I don't have the final order that was agreed-upon even though it was determined in court that if I marry my girlfriend my ex-wife might attempt to take me back to court to get more alimony.

Even though everything was judged in that final hearing and we're just waiting before the sign off does this seem like a valid concern?

I am struggling financially as it is.

I have flaws.

We all do.

I do not expect a partner to be perfect

Been dating a chick for almost a year.

Some arguments but I love her and things have mostly stabilized.

Today she copped at attitude about a concern I had.

I was feeling like she hasn't been making the relationship a priority.

Instead of being constructive she chose to attack ly work ethic and me as a person.

I blocked her to avoid things escalating......unblocked her just to send this

"I do not like how this feels.

I was feeling like I'm not a priority to you.

I feel like I brought up a legitimate concern and instead of reminding me that you are just super busy and that I am still a priority to you.....

You chose to get angry and attack my work ethic and me as a person

Many times when I'm arguing with my ex-wife I will temporarily block her because I don't wanna deal with the drama

I did that earlier with you because I didn't wanna fight and make things worse

I'm going to do that again after I send this text.

Maybe we both need to pray about the situation and let God take the center stage here.

I love you.

But your response to my concern was not legitimate or helpful

I hope that you feel like texting me later this evening."

Thoughts?