u/Due-Kitchen-1053

Looking for a few middle aged women that would be open to be " occasional" friends. I'm recent to the area and the lack of diversity it rough.

I am active LDS but have been around non LDS most my adult life and perfer those friendships.

I've lived in 7 different states, recently ended career to be caregiver for a time, absolutely love learning new things, intellectual conversation and trying new foods.

Prefer:

- chats in the park with some new local food

- a shared workout class at the gym ( im in terrible shape)

- a community class

- read a book and discuss

etc.

100% promise to not discuss anything related to religion or invite you to any church event. I'm in my mid 40s, few advanced degrees, and decently friendly. NEED some casual friends that are fairly normal.

Looking for perspectives, I'm going to be direct so please skip if sensitive.

CSA for almost a decade when I was younger. Spent 20s/30s in a series of relationships that were unhealthy, sexually based etc. Found the gospel and found a great mental health therapist, lots of work but have kicked porn habit and self. Working on healing my body and mind and my drive is non existent in the past 2 years - I think cause I rarely feel safe around men - especially those that try to assert authority (unrighteous dominion).

We all have baggage but mine feels like a dump truck full and wondering if I should just stay single/ resign to be or if I should try to date.

edit: I'm doing the therapy but guess looking for examples or encouragement that it's navigatable ( may come back) or if best to let it die and move on with fully embracing singleness. The amount of posts about sexless marriages/ frustration aimed at the uninterested party seems to be a big issue.​

https://utahmsaconference.org

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