Moving in together
Hello,
I am a ‘F32’ boyfriend is a ‘M34.’ We have been together over 2 years. We recently are moving in together. I have two concerns:
- My job is what I call in limbo now. Meaning I do not know where I will be and in what capacity due to the changes coming up. Therefore, financially I want to hold on to my money. He is willing to pay for all vacations we want to take by himself and I am willing to wait to go on vacation until I have more money.
- The cost is a lot. I know I cannot afford to help. He has a lot more savings than I do. He wants to pay the security deposit but I am uncomfortable with this.
I have a past of an abusive ex who would hold money over me. When we broke up, I was left with nothing.
I guess my real question is how do I explain to my boyfriend that him offering as much money as he does makes me feel uncomfortable. I have an apartment right now that I pay by myself and feel very independent. Moving is costing more than staying where I am.