Need advice before i tell yes
Hi, im typing this at 12:41 IST, i am 27f and met a guy through an arrange marraige setup. Instantly we clicked, he makes me laugh so much, but i want him to quit smoking and his language like he cusses which i dont like , just know it has something to do with my dad and the trauma i have of my dad. Any way we met 5 times in a span of 9 days and I have told him my entire history of my family, the traumas, my past relationships and everything and after that also he is fine with me. The problem is im really attracted to him physically is what I think. There is pressure in his home to tell the decision fast which is tomorrow so that the engagement can happen in 3 months down the lane, but im not sure of my decision whether its just physical attraction or what. Moreover the thing is I don't have confidence on my decision coz im like maybe due to trauma , i might end up choosing someone like my dad as they say on social media. My non negotiable was someone who doesnt smoke and does not cuss a lot which is both there in this guy and he has told he will try to stop that. At the end, i dont know what to do and need help, and also his salary is lower than mine and he just at the end of all expenses , he is left with 30k as such, since I grew up where money was always the problem is the house and i hated it, i dont want to be in the same situation. At this point I dont even know what i want and hence am reaching out. Also im 100% sure im.not ready for marraige or commitment yet
Update: i told him I like him but not ready to commit to a marraige so soon, but his opinion is that he likes me and is ready to spend the rest of the life with me. I did ask him "can you ask for more time" at his house to which he told he can't ask for more time at all. What should i consider this as?also i was emotional while talking and he told like "dont cry", is this bad ?