r/HowDoIRespondToThis

So me [19F] and my bf {19M} currently stay with his mom and his brother until we can find our own place , and our bedroom lives have been so boring!

We can’t have no loud intercourse, I can’t moan loud, and half the time we have to go on the floor because his bed becomes too loud. When we first got together we were younger so It didn’t bother me as much, but now that we’re almost 2 years in, it’s just a ick. cause I can’t even look at him in a “dominant way” when my brain is reminding me we’re doing it in his MOMS HOUSE.

and to him it just isn’t a issue. We went from having LOUD sex in my apartment to boring ass sex.

what do I do? it’s starting to turn me off so bad.

My brother had a girlfriend that I genuinely really liked. They recently broke up because he was toxic toward her he called her names, including a b****, mistreated her, and cheated on her. She forgave him more than once, and even after the breakup she has continued checking in on him because she cares about him.
They are still friends and have been hanging out. She called me recently and told me they are still hooking up, even though they are technically broken up. The problem is that I know my brother has also been sleeping with other girls.
I feel conflicted because I don’t want to betray my brother or create more drama, but I also care about her and don’t want her to get hurt or put her health at risk. I don’t know if she thinks they are exclusive again, but I feel like she deserves to know enough to make an informed decision.
Should I tell her to be careful and get tested, or should I stay out of it? If I do say something, how can I do it without making things worse?

My online friend (a 32-year-old man) rejected me and ignored my last message for a month because he had a new girlfriend the week I confessed my romantic feelings. Then he got back to me with a casual message. He said he had been depressed for a while and didn't want to disturb me with this mood. That's why I didn't asked him, "why did you ignore me?" I didn't say that way. Because he has the right to reject me, and he has the right to be lovers with someone else. When he returned to me, I supported him and acted politely. I acted as if nothing had happened. I don't know how he interpreted my behavior, but I think I acted warmly and friendly. He was constantly asking me what I was doing during our absence, and since he lived in another country, he indirectly asked to find out if I had plans to travel abroad during this summer vacation.I think he asked this question because of this: when I confessed my feelings to him, I told him that I was planning to go to the country where he lives this summer and that I dreamed of meeting him face to face. I think he's trying to say that when he broke up with the girl he was with (I'm not sure, I didn't ask any questions about it), if I went to his country, he might be available to meet and get acquainted with me right now. He's also having problems with his work life right now, and even if we had a romantic relationship, I know that the job search has affected his psychology quite badly. So actually, he might have done me a favor by rejecting me, because maybe neither of us were ready for this. I don't know if he still thinks I want him romantically. But I have no plans for a romantic relationship with him right now, and I'm not making any effort in that regard. But I'm not trying to get to know anyone else either. I'm just focusing on my career and my education. When he texts me, I respond to him with positive messages to make him feel confident. I'm doing this purely for our friendship with him. But for the last week, whenever I try to continue the conversation, he starts responding late and seems to get distracted at some point. When we are talking about academic subjects or something related to art, he suddenly interrupts the conversation and turns to me two days later and offers reasons such as "I was busy, I'm sorry, I slept a lot last night". He keeps the conversation going and are curious about what I'm doing and how my day is going. But he only shows interest in me when he sends the first message. When I text, I feel like I'm sending a message that will always be seen late. I feel like a slave. But if I were to tell him this way, he would politely tell me that he definitely wasn't aiming for anything like that, and I might come across as a sensitive girl who can't handle rejection. I want to keep my maturity and pride, but I can't understand some of his actions. What do you guys think? What should I do to avoid coming across as rude or insecure in a situation like this? How should my messages look?

I won’t go into full details, but the question would be. How would you feel if the person you gave a ring to not even 24 hours ago, has dating apps that are active on their phone. You just happened to find out after your shared child was scrolling through the phone to find a game app. Should I be that person and take the ring back? Or just chuck it as a loss and say fuck it? Some context: you and this person have been together six years. Knowing for seven. You were lead to believe that everything has been ok. No issues but that’s what you find. Age gap is eight years. 41M 33F. I’m the non traditional female of the story.

Is saying "Are you f#@king kidding me?" As disrespectful as telling someone to "f#@k off" or "shut the f#@k up"

Hi I'm 19 female and I'm going to say about my relationship with my boyfriend 21 male

We both loves each other very much

But I will say something which he told me and let me know what's right okay ?

One night while we were in call talking he said ok enough for today we can go to sleep and I said ok and we said few words and hung up but suddenly I missed him and called again and I talked a bit more but he just want to hang up and go to sleep and he continuously says bye and that makes me furious and sad so I can't hung up but later he asked me DON'T YOU HAVE SHAME ON DISTURBING HIM AND HIS MOM

And another time he said

HE THINK MARRYING ME IS NOT A GOOD IDEA

next

HE ONLY HAS A DOG'S VALUE TO ME AND IM A DOG INFRONT OF HIM HE SAID IT BECAUSE OF MY CONTINUOUS CALLS

next

One day while he's working at late night I'm worried and I called him and told him to drink water while stressing but he said I'm a burden to him at that time

One day after fight or something he said he doesn't know if I have some mental problems or not

And and another day he said after talking in call if talking time had finished don't call or tell him anything even if it is about dying

I'm F 19 female and I have a boyfriend 21/M

And we are studying in same class

Some of the classmate girls are sitting opposite us and I know it's completely normal to look classmate not like staring but we all look but he keeps staring them for few seconds and this had been a pattern and I don't know what to do so I asked him and he said he is just saying at them and looking what they're doing but I don't feel it right tell me guys is that right what he said

Well.... storytime.

I was getting bored this one evening, decided to play a game, went to play store, there i saw this new app, this was like a language learning app, which allowed you to connect to people all over the world, and learn their native language. I made a fake account, posted a faceless pic, and forgot about it. Well..got so many texts, removing the creepy ones, in the end I was talking to two guys. Let's say A and B.

Then idk why we shifted to insta

I made a fake account

Now I have

My account, one to talk to guy A, one for B, and one for watching reels😭

I mean they're cool, we're like friends, their accounts were real, so I knew them...they don't know me

Guy A is basically a good friend, we text whenever we remember, he's a college student too

He even guided me for college life

Though he's half devdas

I told him I'm starting college,...he then warned me about guy who tends to help but actually just want timepass

I asked him how does he know

He said he's a guy too (i mean...yeah😭)

Then He said he doesn't do feelings and all

Started going on about his ex

Though overall...he only guided me

Then he asked if he could see me since I've seen him already...

He said if I don't want to it's okay

Then I sent a photo

And idk what happened

He forgot his ex only😭

Then the compliments and all came

I'm not sure what to reply

Guy B on the other hand, is a bit weird...older...but...he's smart, he called me out saying he doesn't think I'm from "south" as i had lied, he said he found out by my accent (mf we texting 😭)

But he asks weird questions

Like really WEIRD

Like adult references, even though I'm not faking my age.

And a few different kinds of flirting lines, and i try to make it normal conversation...he's kinda the problem

And this one time they both were texting at the same time, and i had to type fast, send, change account and then repeat.

And sometimes i forget what I told guy A or B

So now I have to read my own texts to find out which character am i playing.😭

On one hand i know both of them clearly like me, Guy B had evn said it, I said no but then he got bitter

So we don't talk much

And I've sent them a few pics

NOTHING I'd regret

Just my face

I'm not faking everything

Like name is fake

Age isn't

Place I'm from is fake

But my stories aren't 😭

But they still don't know the real me...now the thing is

I'm bored again

I wanna leave

But I'm kinda feeling bad, a bit weird too...because even though my photos were one view and couldn't be saved, and i didn't share ANYTHING I'd regret and I know they're not bad people

I feel weird

It's still the feeling of "what if"

And a different thought

What if they ever saw my real account😭

Advice needed desperately 😭

Guysss 😭 How do you tell a guy in person that you don't want to follow him back on insta without sounding rude? And that guy goes in my bus that's why i don't want it to be awkward

Well I will tell everything about me

And I have a boyfriend and we were in a relationship I need to know whether I'm toxic or not

I don't like another girls touching him I don't like him eating same piece of chocolate by his colleague women and I don't like when we were talking in a call when he has lunch time at work and a co-worker women hears our talks and tries to talk in the call about some advices , and he will look few seconds at classmate girls and look what they were doing I don't feel it right and he didn't even look at me , he gave his ig to a women he met at airport I don't really like it and it makes me feel awkward etc am I toxic or controlling .

Hi, im typing this at 12:41 IST, i am 27f and met a guy through an arrange marraige setup. Instantly we clicked, he makes me laugh so much, but i want him to quit smoking and his language like he cusses which i dont like , just know it has something to do with my dad and the trauma i have of my dad. Any way we met 5 times in a span of 9 days and I have told him my entire history of my family, the traumas, my past relationships and everything and after that also he is fine with me. The problem is im really attracted to him physically is what I think. There is pressure in his home to tell the decision fast which is tomorrow so that the engagement can happen in 3 months down the lane, but im not sure of my decision whether its just physical attraction or what. Moreover the thing is I don't have confidence on my decision coz im like maybe due to trauma , i might end up choosing someone like my dad as they say on social media. My non negotiable was someone who doesnt smoke and does not cuss a lot which is both there in this guy and he has told he will try to stop that. At the end, i dont know what to do and need help, and also his salary is lower than mine and he just at the end of all expenses , he is left with 30k as such, since I grew up where money was always the problem is the house and i hated it, i dont want to be in the same situation. At this point I dont even know what i want and hence am reaching out. Also im 100% sure im.not ready for marraige or commitment yet

Update: i told him I like him but not ready to commit to a marraige so soon, but his opinion is that he likes me and is ready to spend the rest of the life with me. I did ask him "can you ask for more time" at his house to which he told he can't ask for more time at all. What should i consider this as?also i was emotional while talking and he told like "dont cry", is this bad ?

This guy (28M) and I (29F) have been talking for about 4 months and we hang out pretty frequently. He’s not the best at expressing his emotions and says he has a hard time with attachments. One day we were hanging out and we were drinking, he ended up getting more drunk than me. While we were kissing, he stops, takes my face in his hands, looks me in the eyes and says “I love you.” This caught me off guard so I asked him to say it again, and he does but this time with my name. So for sure I know he’s talking to me, but since I know he is not the best at expressing his emotions, this is pretty big to me. I have heard the phrase, “A drunk man’s words are a man’s sober thoughts,”so I don’t know how to address the situation. When he sobered up, he says he doesn’t remember anything and he asked me to tell him what happened and I did, minus the whole “I love you” part. I also know that I probably messed up by not telling him initially, but this was a pretty surprising. I don’t know how he would react if I told him what he said. But also I don’t know if he actually means it, since you know being drunk and all.

hi, can someone tell me what to do if someone just texted me on Reddit and said you’re so gorgeous and hot

We've been dating for 2 years, and his parents just never liked me. Up to this day, never gotten their approval. Now we're about to go long distance, cause his moving to a different uni.

He told me, if I'd like to accompany him to the airport cause his guy friends would be coming along to send him off as well. I momentarily hesitated at first cause ik his mom don't particularly like me at all, but I still agreed given that we won't be seeing each other again for a long time.

He will be going tomorrow, and I just received a text that apparently his mom won't let me come. I simply brushed it off, trying to be as cool as I can, and said "it's fine, she's actually doing me a favor"

But in reality, I don't know how to feel or respond to that at all.. I feel kinda hurt cause before I got that message I was looking for an outfit thinking I'm also gonna come with them.