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Abel carried it anyways, as usual, and obviously the Diddler is the Diddler so I just don’t see the point..

I have been single for a little bit now but the other night one of my very good friend’s girlfriend (who I don’t know that well) was really excited about the prospect of me being interested in one of her close friends who was also single :))

Sounds amazing really haha your friends trying to actively help you out but unfortunately the girl was very much not my type appearance-wise and just vibes wise (after flicking through a few pictures…) and I wasn’t that interested.

Instinctively, I reacted with the aforementioned reasoning, saying almost verbatim “Haha sorry to disappoint but she’s not really my type. I really appreciate the gesture but yeahh that’s it really..” The mood was light so I said it with a smile on my face kind of lightly and I feel like I didn’t say anything too harsh. Just tried to soften any blow as much as I could. But immediately after I said that, her face dropped from being super excited to super disappointed.. and I felt really bad but also kind of stuck in terms of how to recover the situation without making it apparently worse.

Fortunately, the whole group had a good night afterwards so me personally, I had a great time but the day after, I still felt pretty bad about that moment and I guess I hoped the night just washed away any sour feelings on my friend’s girlfriend’s end. I ended up telling my friend that I didn’t mean any harm or anything - really just said what I thought and apologised if it came off in any way like that. My friend just said not to worry about it :))

I guess this situation is sort of handled but I was wondering if anyone had tips for dealing with this sort of situation in the future or anything I could have done better/differently?

… or more broader, just how to say what you’re honestly thinking without coming off condescending or hurtful in any way?

For context: my friend is a very good friend of mine, incredibly close and always have just been real w him. The girlfriend is pretty new so I haven’t met her too many times but she is very nice in general.