u/lifeisjus

What to say after breaking no contact?????????????? but i just want to be friends plus i followed him and he surprisingly followed me back WHAT DO I SAY

So, i broke up with my ex January 29, i missed him , not really as a rls but i missed him as a friend like i missed talking to him, i felt really bad because after we had the whole breakup talk which lasted a couple of days , i left him on read because i got so overwhelmed. tbh i broke up with him because for some reason it didnt feel right and i didnt realize i had avoidant attachment at the time. Its april 30 and i followed him on insta and he followed me back and now i want to text him but i literally have no idea what to say, please help!

Okay so, april 2025 i had a crush on this guy, lets call him levi, i started talking to him we became friends he introduced me with two of his friends, lets call them Cam and Alan, me and Cam started talking more and more like one on one face timing , i didnt really have a crush on neither at this time because Levi, the more i got to know him the more i didnt like his personality because he would make offensive jokes, even towards one of his friends, mostly Cam, me and him would call more like i genuinely saw him as the guy version of me, also Levi tried to put me on with him when we first started talking because he "liked me" mind you this was literally before me and him started to get to know eachother so i said no cause i literally technically didnt know him anyways fast foward to when me and Cam started to talk more we honestly started talking more because we noticed levi's weird behavior also fun fact a little before this when me and cam were talking he found out i had a crush on Levi but this is before i noticed his weird behavior, he tried to put me on with Levi but Levi rejected me but that didnt really make anything weird idk. But anyway back to what i was talking about, me and cam were talking more and eventually i fell for him , he fell for me too and told me , mind you he was in a whole rls but he said it was "falling apart" he would tell me a lot about how his gf would entertain other guys and about how she would lie and not send him good morning texts anymore, acting dry etc, i told him i feel the same way but i didnt know about the situation with the girl like i didnt wanna be in that situation and he was like are you sure you would want me as a bf and i was like yeah im sure ive been thinking about it for a while now then he was like he doesnt think this is a good idea cause hes experineced and im not and he'd get impatient then i said something along the lines of accepting anyways, he texted me back like a day later saying he changed his mind and he'd go at my pace and i guess we started talking more, romantically throughout when we would talk i would tell him i feel bad because hes still with her and he would say that hes going to break up with her and he was taking too long so i threatened to leave him then he finally left her then when we got together thats when i kinda started to regret getting with him because the way he approached me in the first place and because of my avoidant attachment that i didnt know i had at the moment, mind you we started talking romatically in october, got together in january but i broke up with him january 29 because i was unsure , the process was insane like he was trying to convince me to get back with him , he was really nice and geniune im not gonna lie , it was taking me a while to reply because he would text me in these really long paragraphs and i would get overwhelmed then he would be like you can block me if you want and i would be like sorry it took me a while i just needed to process because it was true then we would try to talk like just as friends but it would be same and it would just be dry then thats when he left me on read then a couple days later he texted levi and told him that i can unfollow or block him if i want so i texted him directly and was like i was never planning on blocking or unfollowing you but if thats gonna make these easier then i will then he was like ok ill wait till you do it then i unfollowed him on everything then what confused me was he sent me this entire paragraph afterwards telling me how his lifes been mind you we had only been broken up for like a month and a half, i didnt respond as time has passed, im not gonna lie i do miss him, not as like in a rls but as a friend like i miss talking to him like i miss how we were before we started talking romatically, recently i went through his reposts and it seems like hes moved on, stuff about him forgiving me but he doesnt want to talk to me idk so basically the reposts were me just looking like a bad person kind of there was even one saying "never again" , he has more reposts on his tiktok but its private since i unfollowed him on there, its so awkward at school like im just not okay with it like i hate the avoiding eye contact acting like we dont see eachother, him walking with some other girl that hes not with but it feels like hes replaced me and they're friends. What my question is though is should i follow him again on social media, atleast one account and wait for him to follow me back and that be my quene to text him or just text him first and then follow him? im scared though because i feel like he'll just leave me on read, delivered or just not be willing to talk to me again because i left him on delievered since feburary and it is now april. Sorry this is a lot but can yall please help me , dm for any further questions

Okay so, april 2025 i had a crush on this guy, lets call him levi, i started talking to him we became friends he introduced me with two of his friends, lets call them Cam and Alan, me and Cam started talking more and more like one on one face timing , i didnt really have a crush on neither at this time because Levi, the more i got to know him the more i didnt like his personality because he would make offensive jokes, even towards one of his friends, mostly Cam, me and him would call more like i genuinely saw him as the guy version of me, also Levi tried to put me on with him when we first started talking because he "liked me" mind you this was literally before me and him started to get to know eachother so i said no cause i literally technically didnt know him anyways fast foward to when me and Cam started to talk more we honestly started talking more because we noticed levi's weird behavior also fun fact a little before this when me and cam were talking he found out i had a crush on Levi but this is before i noticed his weird behavior, he tried to put me on with Levi but Levi rejected me but that didnt really make anything weird idk. But anyway back to what i was talking about, me and cam were talking more and eventually i fell for him , he fell for me too and told me , mind you he was in a whole rls but he said it was "falling apart" he would tell me a lot about how his gf would entertain other guys and about how she would lie and not send him good morning texts anymore, acting dry etc, i told him i feel the same way but i didnt know about the situation with the girl like i didnt wanna be in that situation and he was like are you sure you would want me as a bf and i was like yeah im sure ive been thinking about it for a while now then he was like he doesnt think this is a good idea cause hes experineced and im not and he'd get impatient then i said something along the lines of accepting anyways, he texted me back like a day later saying he changed his mind and he'd go at my pace and i guess we started talking more, romantically throughout when we would talk i would tell him i feel bad because hes still with her and he would say that hes going to break up with her and he was taking too long so i threatened to leave him then he finally left her then when we got together thats when i kinda started to regret getting with him because the way he approached me in the first place and because of my avoidant attachment that i didnt know i had at the moment, mind you we started talking romatically in october, got together in january but i broke up with him january 29 because i was unsure , the process was insane like he was trying to convince me to get back with him , he was really nice and geniune im not gonna lie , it was taking me a while to reply because he would text me in these really long paragraphs and i would get overwhelmed then he would be like you can block me if you want and i would be like sorry it took me a while i just needed to process because it was true then we would try to talk like just as friends but it would be same and it would just be dry then thats when he left me on read then a couple days later he texted levi and told him that i can unfollow or block him if i want so i texted him directly and was like i was never planning on blocking or unfollowing you but if thats gonna make these easier then i will then he was like ok ill wait till you do it then i unfollowed him on everything then what confused me was he sent me this entire paragraph afterwards telling me how his lifes been mind you we had only been broken up for like a month and a half, i didnt respond as time has passed, im not gonna lie i do miss him, not as like in a rls but as a friend like i miss talking to him like i miss how we were before we started talking romatically, recently i went through his reposts and it seems like hes moved on, stuff about him forgiving me but he doesnt want to talk to me idk so basically the reposts were me just looking like a bad person kind of there was even one saying "never again" , he has more reposts on his tiktok but its private since i unfollowed him on there, its so awkward at school like im just not okay with it like i hate the avoiding eye contact acting like we dont see eachother, him walking with some other girl that hes not with but it feels like hes replaced me and they're friends. What my question is though is should i follow him again on social media, atleast one account and wait for him to follow me back and that be my quene to text him or just text him first and then follow him? im scared though because i feel like he'll just leave me on read, delivered or just not be willing to talk to me again because i left him on delievered since feburary and it is now april. Sorry this is a lot but can yall please help me , dm for any further questions

yall i miss him so bad i dont know what to do