Need Advice
Mom’s of two under three…. I need advice. How do you handle a rambunctious boy toddler? I currently have a 2 1/2 year-old and a 10 month old and my toddler has the propensity to hit and I can tell when he’s seeking stimulus. Every morning he goes from me to my daughter screaming, hitting, while bored and seeking stimulus. No matter what I do I cannot get this guy to occupy himself without TV. And before you say it, I have gone cold turkey for a months and actually i still dont do much of any of it unless I really need to do something and cant seem to get him to leave the baby alone so i can do it, and without the tv it only made things worse. he Actually started directing ALL his attention to me and his sister. Meanwhile, when my husband watches them as I work casually, and he saw the benefits instantly as my son would play by himself all the time but for me I can’t seem to get him to play independent of me and his sister. Now, obviously, I let them play together, but I have to watch them like a hawk as he has a propensity to hit, bite and take any toys she’s playing with from her. so some days, I just keep them completely separate as it gets very annoying trying to decipher when the next hit or really bad bite is gonna come. And also before you ask again, No, I am not on my phone because I don’t have the time between cleaning nonstop messes from both of them just so I can walk in my hallway and cooking nonstop for for my child and husband who have different allergies and food taste and pumping for a baby whose world is going so fast, she cant slow down long enough to eat at the breast so please don’t start there. my main issue is that the minute my husband comes home this kid can play outside without needing entertainment. He can play in his room or on the floor without needing anyone around so then when I try to copy what my husband does I get a toddler that follows me around nonstop, expecting me to play with him personally and/or entertain him while he plays outside/on the floor/in his room. I have tried personal playtime with baby separate in the Playpen, I’ve tried reading him books, I’ve tried to go outside first thing in the morning, I’ve tried making him lift & push/pull heavy things like laundry or gallon jugs, I’ve tried sensory bins, and I’ve tried to go to the park first thing in the morning. all these things he does and uninterested and/or bored with no sort of energy expenditure so I end up exhausting myself before noon trying to pack two kids out the door right away. so please outside the generic Instagram post advice can you please tell me or give me advice on what to do? He’s almost 3 in october and I plan to put him a crap ton of sports all through winter. I will not suffer through another winter again with boy with unimaginable energy. we only have one car so as soon as dad gets home i take him out the house as soob as possible because sometimes i think he just bored of the house during the week with me ??? but i can’t play entertain the toddler all day every day or do i???? all advice will be taken… thanks