u/Dumbass_404

I decided I want to draw some genderbends of Darkest Dungeon lol, who do you guys think I should genderbend first? I was thinking about either Dismas, BH or Reynauld, but what do you guys think?

I've been playing PVP with my boyfriend and I don't really care about winning, but to make his life absolutely miserable, how can I achieve this?

I (20F) have been dating Dave (23M) (not his real name) for almost 3 months.

When I was 15, I was sexually assaulted, raped, and abused for about a year by a 21-year-old Navy man. Because of that, I struggle a lot with anything sex-related, and sex is still difficult for me.

Recently, my grandmother passed away. She was my main financial support, and losing her left me in a difficult emotional and financial situation. To help with rent, I let a male friend I’d known for almost four years move in temporarily after he was kicked out of his home. Before agreeing, I asked Dave if he was comfortable with it, and he said yes.

Only three days after moving in, this friend tried to sexually assault me. I repeatedly told him to stop, but he only did after I started crying. The experience triggered a severe shock response and brought back memories of my previous abuse.

I called Dave late that night and asked if I could stay with him for a few days. I didn’t fully explain what had happened, but he immediately told me to pack my things and come over. While I was in shock, my friend kept apologizing, claiming he thought my “no” was roleplay and even faked a heart attack. I ended up feeling guilty and let him keep talking to me for almost 30 minutes until Dave called to check on me.

About a month later, we were talking with one of Dave’s friends and his girlfriend. I gave Dave permission to tell them what had happened because I trusted him to be careful.

Instead, when he got to the part where I stayed with my attacker for a while afterward, he said something like, “Then she just waited there for half an hour or something. Honestly, I don’t know what the fuck you were doing.”

His tone immediately triggered a panic attack. I ran to the bathroom, locked myself inside, and started hyperventilating and crying. I couldn’t explain why until weeks later. Once he realized his words had caused it, he apologized and seemed genuinely sorry.

Fast forward to last weekend. During our usual Discord call with the same couple, I accidentally read some old messages he’d sent them while I was asleep

They said things like:
“It wasn’t your fault, she admitted what I said caused that.”
“She probably could’ve gotten over it the same day IMO.”
“For me, she made the situation too "dramatic", but idk.”
Reading that broke my heart. It made me wonder whether he actually understands me or if he secretly thinks I overreacted all along. Also it hurts me so much to see him just talking about my trauma without my consent like it's nothing

I don’t know what to think anymore. AITB? What should I do?

(My 'friend' returned to his home country afterward, by the time I recovered enough to consider reporting it, it was no longer realistically possible.)