u/Dustinthewind_421

Ok I hate that I’m this insecure, but it’s been so long since I’ve dated and my ex wasn’t kind. At 40 and after a few kids my body isn’t what it used to be. There are obviously shallow men out there but in general, do men care about varicose veins or a lower belly with old stretch marks? I just worry that starting a relationship with this body is different than watching a body change overtime. I’m ashamed I’m actually worried about this but it’s not easy to get back out there and I want to be as confident as I used to be. Blah

So briefly- single mom to 3 kids..divorced since 2019, have not dated or been with a man in any way shape or form since December 2020. Lots of shit went down at that time I wound up with full custody and that’s just where my focus has been since.

I’ve been feeling the need for some adult connection and I’m ready to get back out there..I downloaded hinge over the weekend and started talking to someone and the conversation was great, flowed naturally, funny, low maintenance, you know all the things. Said he wanted to take me out in 2 weeks to give me time to figure out child care, which I loved. Exchanged numbers. It’s only been 3 days, which is fine..he not clingy, really, texting everyday which doesn’t bother me, but like first thing in the morning “been thinking about you” good night at the end of the day.

I guess my question is- does it seem like he’s just lonely and looking for someone to send
Messages like that too? Like-it’s been 3 days…he’s polite, respectful, doesn’t blow up my phone when I take hours to respond..but the good morning and good night texts at 3 days in when we haven’t even met yet? There’s definitely chemistry - at least based on our conversations so far, who knows if we’ll vibe in person…but is that reasonable?? Or am I setting my self up for self-sabotage by already telling myself it’s not about me but just about having anyone?

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