r/divorced

I’m a widow with two kids looking for a serious relationship

Hi everyone, I'm Carol, 55, retired and living in Houston, TX. Divorced, no kids.

Lately I've been feeling a bit lonely and thought I'd try here to connect with fellow Americans. I love casual walks, good food, travel when I can, and just laughing over everyday things.

Not rushing anything, just hoping to chat, share stories, maybe find a real friendship and see where it goes. Happy to chat here or in DMs.

Thanks for welcoming a newbie!

mom in North Alabama, and lately I’ve been realizing how little real connection I have in my life. I live with my daughter’s dad, but we have separate rooms and our relationship feels more like two people existing in the same house than an actual partnership.
Some nights I just sit there after my daughter goes to sleep and realize I haven’t had a real conversation with anyone all day. I miss having somebody to tell things to. Somebody who checks in because they genuinely want to. Somebody I can joke around with, talk about life with, or even just bullshit with when I don’t have anything important to say.
I’ve tried meeting people online, but it’s exhausting when a normal conversation eventually becomes about sex. I’m not looking for that. I’m looking for the kind of connection where attraction doesn’t have to be the entire point of talking to each other.
I want someone who is actually available and capable of giving something back. Someone who isn’t looking for a temporary distraction, or only interested when they’re bored.

I think I’m just craving that feeling of being chosen and wanted in someone’s life. Not necessarily romantically right away. I just want to feel like I matter to somebody outside of being someone’s mom.

47F in Michigan just stopping by to say hi, maybe make a friend or two, maybe more? Can relocate if things turn serious. Hey, at least Monday is almost over! Have a great evening!

Hello everyone. Is anyone in this group from the UK? Two years after my divorce, I’ve just decided to give myself a second chance at finding someone.

Please read.

I'm from Fairfield county, Connecticut.

58 M. 5'9". Silver hair and brown eyes. Slim. A sailor and an Indian. Married to a Caucasian and separated. I love alone. Together only to save on taxes and a few minor issues. Other than that, nothing holding me back. Trying to get my life back together. I do smoke (trying to quit) and prefer to drink either hand ground, French press delicious coffee or awesome artisinal beer. Maybe some red wine.

I'm a text book Scorpio. With all the good & the bad traits. Possessive, loving, protective, honest, loyal, intelligent, dependable, goofy, passionate etc. Strong headed and think unconventionally. Always smiling & cracking jokes (in public), but can get serious fast too. I'm a news junkie. Politically, left of center and not religious.

I'll be sensitive to your needs, desires and wants. I'll be there for you, if I physically can be. But, understand this - I'm passionate. I've a weird sense of humor. I'll tease. My mild sarcasm will be laced in humor. If you cannot accept this, if you are going to be sensitive, going to be easily offended and not talk it out or going to ghost, not be able to chat intelligently, then we're not for each other.

Looking for a slim to fit lady. Initially just to romance and chat. Get to know. Share a laugh and flirt, looking into your eyes. Maybe be an online partner/gf to initially chat and maybe sext with. Whose texts makes me smile and my heart starts thudding, who makes me go all out to satisfy her. I'm not looking for straightaway sex as I find sex without emotions to be boring. I prefer taking it slow. I hope that's acceptable. But, we'll eventually meet. Else, what's the point?

I have a few rules & red flags -

1. We talk openly with each other - for the better part or worse. It’s important to keep things level and on the same page.
2. We are prioritizing our need for pleasing and pleasure. There is no other point of this arrangement.
3. Closure: This is especially important! It sucks to have to wonder what happened to the other person. Did they ghost me? Did they just change their mind? We’re both adults and yes, it hurts.

Red flags - I fall hard and fast, I can be clingy, and I may double text.

I'm safe. I've a car. I dot my i's and cross my t's. Always polite and respectful. Your discretion is guaranteed. And, if you want to vent - you've an unconditional, guaranteed ear :)

To those from anywhere in or outside USA, I can travel if we vibe.

Been out of the game too long and trying to find a companion. Sex happens if it happens and we vibe. Let's be online partners first or even have a coffee date the very next day & if we vibe, have sex for the pleasure of it, instead of chasing the orgasm.

\*notabot

I absolutely underestimated how much I was actually taken advantage of during my 18 years of marriage. Sitting back and looking in after being divorced has been an insane experience.

How long does it take for you to truly accept what happen when you put your all in only for the marriage to end with your partner being in an affair and filing behind your back while you're institutionalized? Our final court hearing was 6/9 and it's all finalized 9/7. Unfortunately we share custody of a child so I still have to encounter her, but she constantly strikes out to hurt and set me off. This woman literally drove me to a mental breakdown and drinking heavily.....yet I was still willing to forgive her.

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Hi everyone. Im 46F and I’ve been thinking about dating again after my terrible divorce with my ex husband and I’m realizing I have very little interest in going back to the whole swipe, match, message, repeat cycle. I’m not trying to rush into anything, but I am at a point where I’d rather meet people who are actually looking for something meaningful. Dating after divorce already comes with enough second guessing, so the idea of having someone else help with the filtering and introductions is starting to sound pretty appealing to me and I want to start over and move on so I came across Tawkify while researching matchmaking and some other ones. And from what I understand they can help with this kind of stuff? Im curious about whether the process felt less exhausting or more intentional than dating apps, especially for people who were getting back out there after a long marriage. For anyone here who tried matchmaking sercvices did it help and was it worth it?

42m not divorced but it's seriously considering it.

one of my main things holding me back is when I think about what it might do to my kids.

Any here wish they would've just stayed and tough'd it out for longer?

Dating after divorce has been awful. Anyone else going through something similar? Whats the experience been like?
When you love someone but they second guess you based on what other people think of you and question their choices ... then you ask yourself where do you stand?

Together 25 years, 4 children, 3 still at home 17, 13, and 6. 50/50 custody. She was a stay at home mom. I worked hard to make certain we were good. I am a family guy. No bars, no sports, no nothing. Work and family was all I did. Still don't understand why she left but I believe I know. I believe it was re-lived childhood trauma, perimenopause, social media addiction, and just stressed out. She asked for divorce and I never wanted it. There was no cheating, no substance abuse, no financial problems, absolutely nothing worth killing a marriage over. Anyways, what do I do now? I take care of my kids but honestly I've never done anything for myself. I am struggling to find anything that makes me happy because providing for my family was my source of happiness. I'm absolutely lost when my children aren't here. I don't drink and I damn sure don't need to. I have friends but they're all guys and guys don't talk to each other about feelings and emotions. How do I find a friend to talk to? I don't want another relationship, I still love my ex even though she's done this to our family.

GRAY DIVORCES are continuing to rise at alarming rates.. If you are a person who got divorced at the age of fifty or after fifty, how are you fairing?

30M got divorced last year. Having 9 years of relationship before marriage and 2 years of marriage life. Feeling lonely now and want to find the happiness in life

To those what were in long term unhappy relationships or marriages- what made you finally leave / the relationship end?

Its been over a year since she saw the lawyer and we took our rings off. I can't get her to file. We still live in same house but have had separate bedrooms for 3 years. Should I file?

There are a lot of things we don’t miss since we’ve gotten divorced.

But I miss the intimacy. The cuddling and watching a movie. The hound out and doing things together. Like how it was in the beginning of we hoped would be our last love. I miss the touching, the talking about our day and everything and anything in between.

I’m 45 from Chicago and so hard to meet people who just want to talk and get to know one another. Build that connection, and what not. Whenever I put myself out there as a single empty nester woman, it’s disgusting how guys talk. It really makes me realize that’s why there’s crazy old cat ladies. Lol

Recently divorced at 44 and damn sure need to meet a few friends. Not interested in much else at the moment, just a female to talk to and maybe hang out with. I hear it's horrible, especially over 40. Any insight?

I am going through a divorce and one of my main questions is if I can get equal custody in California. I have been involved with my children ever since their birth. I take them to school every day, coach their soccer, and also do a bedtime routine with them. However, I have heard a lot of people who say that mothers get better custody. I am also confused by these statements because it is not what I have read about fathers' rights.
The information I have found states that in California courts, the best interests of the child are key in their decisions and not the fact that one parent is going to get custody over the other. I hope I will hear from other fathers who have gone through this process.
If you have also tried to get equal custody in California, what helped you with everything? Does anything come to your mind that you wish you had known at the beginning?