u/Dangerous-Company344

Together 25 years, 4 children, 3 still at home 17, 13, and 6. 50/50 custody. She was a stay at home mom. I worked hard to make certain we were good. I am a family guy. No bars, no sports, no nothing. Work and family was all I did. Still don't understand why she left but I believe I know. I believe it was re-lived childhood trauma, perimenopause, social media addiction, and just stressed out. She asked for divorce and I never wanted it. There was no cheating, no substance abuse, no financial problems, absolutely nothing worth killing a marriage over. Anyways, what do I do now? I take care of my kids but honestly I've never done anything for myself. I am struggling to find anything that makes me happy because providing for my family was my source of happiness. I'm absolutely lost when my children aren't here. I don't drink and I damn sure don't need to. I have friends but they're all guys and guys don't talk to each other about feelings and emotions. How do I find a friend to talk to? I don't want another relationship, I still love my ex even though she's done this to our family.

Recently divorced at 44 and damn sure need to meet a few friends. Not interested in much else at the moment, just a female to talk to and maybe hang out with. I hear it's horrible, especially over 40. Any insight?

Lots of people used to do it at home but I don't have the time.

1hp 12gpm Meyers 3 wire submersible. Installed 11+ years ago. Sat unused for 5 years. Got it going again and it hasn't had any issues. It failed to start the other day so I checked voltage, all good. Filed pressure switch contacts, all good. Nothing. Changed starting capacitor, nothing. Changed entire control box, nothing. Pulled out the ohm meter and yellow to black is 5 ohms, red to yellow is 14.5 ohms, red to black is 18 ohms. Google says that is out of spec so motor is about done. I say about done because I put the original control box on with the original start capacitor and after many attempts, it came back on and hasn't quit again. Would you agree that this motor is just about done?

She moved out a month ago but still comes around daily for the kids. My 6 year old has been staying with her for a week now (his choice, he sleeps with her and has trouble going to sleep without her). My 12 year old son and 16 year old daughter stay with me. The loneliness is starting to chip away at me. I'm not sure how to combat it. We still have a long ways to go before the divorce is final. Any suggestions?

Title says it all. Who do y'all recommend?