u/EagleBrief9331

Hello, my eyelids are uneven, i have hallow under eyes and so much more. does anyone know a good oculoplastic surgeon who can discuss these things?

upper blepharoplasty (or asymmetry correction)
ptosis repair (if one lid truly sits lower)
temporal brow lift / endoscopic brow balancing
fat grafting or lower blepharoplasty for hollow under-eyes
canthopexy/canthoplasty for support/shape
skin resurfacing/laser around eyes
eyebrow reshaping (sometimes surgical, often non-surgical)
lash/brow styling and maintenance afterward

i’m not looking to get all of these done cuz idk which ones i need but if anyone has had any good experiences, please let me know!! ☺️ thank you

Last year (September 2025), I met a guy and we really hit it off. He’s from another country and we don’t speak the same language fluently (I’m learning Spanish, he’s learning English), but that didn’t stop us. We had a really natural connection — we’d laugh, talk, watch movies, go sightseeing. Being around him gave me a lot of peace.
The problem is, I had just come out of an abusive relationship. I was really insecure and didn’t trust him at all, especially because he’s very attractive. Even though I liked him a lot, I kept self-sabotaging. I’d push him away, be mean sometimes, then feel horrible and cry about it later. I didn’t cheat or anything, but I know I didn’t treat him as well as I should have.
Things became unstable. He would come back, and then I’d distance myself again. It turned into this emotional cycle, and I became kind of obsessed in an unhealthy way. I was crying almost every day and felt like I couldn’t control my emotions.
Eventually, I left the country. That was really hard, but I felt like I needed to do it to get out of that situation. Since then, I’ve been trying to work on myself, my faith, my mental health and my life in general. I’m not fully okay yet, but I am trying.
The thing is I still think about him a lot. I feel like I really love him.
But my life isn’t stable. I’m in about $12k of debt, and I want to focus on improving myself — looks wise (so i don’t have to feel insecure), financially, emotionally, and overall quality of life. Part of me wants to go back to him someday , but I don’t know if that’s realistic or healthy (i’d go back to him now if i could 😞💔)
We’re currently no contact because i don’t respond to him. I don’t know if he would even want me back. He’s been with more people than I have, and I don’t think I meant as much to him as he did to me (he’s the second guy i’ve been with my whole life and he is EXACTLY MY Type)
I also worry that if I take the time I need (like two to four years) to heal, grow, and fix my life, he’ll have moved on completely!!! maybe even be in a serious relationship or have a family. And I wouldn’t want to interfere with that.
At the same time, I don’t feel ready for a relationship right now, especially with everything I’m dealing with.
So I feel stuck:
I really want to be with him
But I know I’m not ready
And I don’t know if waiting will just mean losing him forever
Has anyone been in a situation like this? Should I just let this go and focus on myself (but what if i NEVER find someone exactly like him?? and i only want him) , or is it okay to hold onto the idea of reconnecting in the future (has this been successful for anyone)?