u/Early-Elk1455

I have been married for 2.5 years now, and I still am not able to learn how to deal with my FIL. I can deal with him on the outside, but almost anything and everything he says gets on my nerves on the inside. My FIL is a narcissistic man, and he is a widower, so all his responsibility is on my husband and me. He does not understand that most of what he says is wrong or at the wrong time. He watches vlogs and news, and he thinks he knows everything. I have understood that the solution is to ignore what he says and not let it get to my heart. I am not able to do that; everything he says gets to my mind and heart so very instantly. I am an oversensitive and overemotional being. Please give me advice as to what I can do to not constantly stay hurt.

Do the avatars of Vishnu have different abodes in the higher realm, or do they merge back into Vishnu? If I am praying to Ram or Krishna, are they listening directly, or are my prayers redirected to Lord Vishnu?

I initially thought that they would merge into Sri Hari, but while reading a passage from Brahma Samita, I came across this verse-

goloka-nāmni nija-dhāmni tale cha tasya
devī maheśha-hari-dhāmasu teṣhu teṣhu
te te prabhāva-nichayā vihitāśh cha yena
govindam ādi-puruṣhaṁ tam ahaṁ bhajāmi
(Brahma Samhitā verse 43)