u/Early_Show9866

I (F23) have been with my bf (M27) for 2 years. We’ve been best friends for like 6. The transition to being friends and becoming bf and gf was rocky and challenging, but the more time goes on the better things get. That was, until last night.

I explained to him I had been feeling kind of neglected and unloved here recently. He is a workaholic. Literally works 7 days a week most weeks. When he does finally have an off day, it never matches up with mine.

We never go on dates. I don’t receive flowers or gifts unless I ask, or if it’s a holiday. And when we hang out I feel like we are always doing or watching what he wants to do or watch. Even in the car we always listen to music he wants to listen to.

We got into a huge fight (which is very rare for us). He basically was calling me ungrateful. He explained he’s coming home every day exhausted from work, and he’s working this much to provide a better future for us.

It’s hard to explain the gravity of the situation without writing a book. But moral of the story he told me we were not compatible and his life would be easier if I wasn’t in it. We eventually made up somehow, but im still feeling off about it. We are currently planning a wedding together, and this is the first time I’ve actually felt doubt about marrying him.

Could I just have more male perspectives about this please? And I guess female ones are fine too. I’m just having a hard time really understand his side I guess. Just feeling hurt.

Thanks for reading

I (F23) have been with my bf (M27) for 2 years. We’ve been best friends for like 6. The transition to being friends and becoming bf and gf was rocky and challenging, but the more time goes on the better things get. That was, until last night.

I explained to him I had been feeling kind of neglected and unloved here recently. He is a workaholic. Literally works 7 days a week most weeks. When he does finally have an off day, it never matches up with mine.

We never go on dates. I don’t receive flowers or gifts unless I ask, or if it’s a holiday. And when we hang out I feel like we are always doing or watching what he wants to do or watch. Even in the car we always listen to music he wants to listen to.

We got into a huge fight (which is very rare for us). He basically was calling me ungrateful. He explained he’s coming home every day exhausted from work, and he’s working this much to provide a better future for us.

It’s hard to explain the gravity of the situation without writing a book. But moral of the story he told me we were not compatible and his life would be easier if I wasn’t in it. We eventually made up somehow, but im still feeling off about it. We are currently planning a wedding together, and this is the first time I’ve actually felt doubt about marrying him.

Could I just have more male perspectives about this please? And I guess female ones are fine too. I’m just having a hard time really understand his side I guess. Just feeling hurt.

Thanks for reading