Situationship with my friends ex
My friend and her bf broke up a while back. It was a bad break up honestly cause he was texting other girls in a flirty manner while they were dating. In the start I was kind of on her side, because at that time I only knew her point of view.
I was good friends with both of them for a while, eventually he asked me if I could meet cause he wanted to talk to me about their break up. I was going to say no cause I was on her side but in his text he wrote “you’re the only one I can talk to” I felt guilty cause he didn’t exactly have the nicest friends who he could just comfortably talk to so I agreed to meet up.
When we met he completely denied talking to other girls( which was a lie) but I kind of still felt bad for him. He told me about how she’s just mean to him, like she would never express affection or compliment him. Not an excuse to be flirting with other girls but still
Anyways a few months after me and him and quite close. I was friends with her too but I didn’t like her at all. Her behaviour towards me just depended on her mood. She would leave me out of conversations and only really speak to me after her other friend had left and she didn’t have anyone else.
Yes so I mean I kinda didn’t care anymore about her being his ex. We were close at some point but I really just found her to be a bad friend at the time.
He later found out he had cancer, that really broke me. I’ve lost people to cancer before and to this day have regrets about the time I spent with them. I wanted to be there for him no matter what. (Btw he told my friend(his ex) on text and she left him on delivered for like a week until I told her in person)I would spend hours with him everyday so he could just talk and rant and have someone there for him. It was so hard to listen to someone talk about how they think they’re gonna die. We got really really close, I don’t think I’ve had such deep conversations with anyone before. Eventually I started to really like him. He did too. He confessed but I felt like it was so wrong to be together because I didn’t want to hurt her.
I told him that I loved him too but it just wasn’t right. He said it was alright and we should just continue to stay friends. Later some stuff happened but I told him that it was really wrong, I felt so terrible for being a horrible friend to her.
Literally 4-5 days after that she suddenly wanted to get back with him. She kinda asked me about it and like bro I didn’t know what to say. I just wanted him to be happy cause he was going through a rough time so I said she should.They met up, spoke and got back together just like that. That really hurt me even though I was the one that encouraged it. i didn’t feel like he thought about me at all.It felt like all that didn’t matter to him at all and I was just a replacement. I know, I shouldn’t really be hurt cause I’m the one who told her to go for it again.
They ended up breaking up again and I stopped talking to him. We spoke once in a while, I still really cared about him and wanted to later maybe be friends again. I really really wanted to be there for him.
Sometime later I hear about him bragging to people about being my first kiss. I really didn’t like that, maybe it didn’t mean much to him but it did to me and the fact that he was telling people he didn’t even know that well just pissed me off. I still like an idiot cared about him.
Anyways fast forward to a little later I found out he’s gone and told this other girl that I was one sidedly in love with him or something?? That just hit me so hard. I cared about this guy so much, I wanted to be there for him and this is how he spoke about me to others.
Later my friend (his gf) suddenly stops talking to me. She found out about me and him and honestly it’s valid that she stopped talking to me. He got back with her again and probably said something about me. I don’t think he told her the full story cause he always makes himself the victim.
He randomly once confessed to one of my friends that he cheated or smn on his gf in the start of the time they got back together recently??? Like what. He also told her he regretted messing things up with me and started tearing up????? I find that so ridiculous.
She obviously hates me now, I feel horrible I regret everything. I should have just stayed on her side during their break up. I shouldn’t have gotten close to him. I literally hate my life right now. I lost my friends in school over this. I’m so scared that my other friends will also hate me. I don’t know what to do.
I really wanted to just say this. I cried so much writing it down.