What I learned about dating in India from this sub
After spending time on this sub, one pattern stands out — region and caste preferences dominate.
I once commented that India's diversity is worth celebrating, not filtering out. Got downvoted for it. It made me think: how much of this is genuine preference versus inherited conditioning we've never questioned?
Caste and region aren't compatibility metrics.
Caste was built to control and exclude — not to measure how well two people connect. When we filter by it, we're doing the work of a system designed to divide us.
Region preference isn't much better. Assuming someone from a different state has incompatible values, habits, or family dynamics is just regionalism dressed up as practicality. India has 28 states and hundreds of cultures — writing off entire populations because of geography is a strange way to find a life partner.
The "it's just preference" argument doesn't hold either. Preferences shaped entirely by birth and geography aren't neutral — they're bias with a softer name.
We're adults. We can make different choices than our parents did. We just often choose not to.
India's dating pool gets a lot more interesting when you stop shrinking it.