Boyfriend doesn’t want to do the deed anymore… how to stay spicy?
Me (20) and my boyfriend (22) have been together for over a year now. A few months ago, we stopped doing the “deed”.
For context, he’s pretty religious, and while I go to church with him and everything out of love and support, I grew up more agnostic than anything. He says he doesn’t want to have sex anymore because it’s a sin, which I respect since it’s his faith, even though it’s not a big deal to me personally.
We have a great relationship outside of sex, but sometimes I just wanna be railed 🥲 it’s not even the no sex part that’s difficult—he also stopped kissing me. No tongue kissing or anything. If I ever try to initiate anything, I feel like he kinda brushes it off.
Every once in a while, he’ll REALLY kiss me (by every once in a while, I mean like deadass once a month). But I feel like I just ruin it by being awkward because I’m just not used to being kissed like that anymore, or I’m scared we’ll take it too far and he’ll blame me for breaking his no sex rule.
How can I bring back the spice to our relationship (not necessarily through sex)? Or any general advice would be great. Don’t wanna break up with him so please don’t tell me to do that lol.