3 Years 6 Days (1102 Days) NoFap Experience
First of all: I am 25 years old, male, and I started NoFap at the age of 22. More precisely, exactly 3 years, and 6 days ago. What has changed in my life? Completely everything. And when I say everything, I truly mean everything.
Having been trapped in pornography since my youth, you can imagine how dark my world was. I don’t need to go into detail about how often I masturbated or anything like that—it was daily, and I had a strong addiction. But let’s leave that aside; you all already know what it’s like, the shame afterward and the feeling of regret. So I’ll skip straight to the time when I started NoFap.
The first weeks were very exhausting because the brain is deprived of a lot of dopamine when you stop. Because of that, my mood was often very bad and mood swings were part of everyday life. In addition, my brain kept seeking stimulation through social media and half-naked women on the internet (you all know how dangerous social media can be).
During the first months, I spent time learning how the brain works and what I had to do to close this chapter in my mind forever—and I succeeded. I started strength training and began bringing discipline into my life. Through that, I made a lot of progress in my development. The more my body changed, the higher my self-confidence became, so on every training day my dopamine levels were quite high because I could see the change happening.
I also completely removed reels, shorts, and TikTok from my life because I didn’t want constant quick dopamine stimuli (warning: doomscrolling is very dangerous for the brain). Instead, I started reading. Most of my time during the week is spent at work, and I train 5–6 times a week. My body has changed dramatically, also because of my change in diet and discipline. Training has become part of my daily life.
I don’t even know when the last time was that I was truly sad. Back when I watched porn every day and my life was driven purely by consumption, I had severe depression. Those depressions have completely disappeared, and I have developed very strong self-confidence.
Before I quit pornography, I had already stopped smoking marijuana and drinking alcohol. After quitting porn, I also quit cigarettes and artificial dopamine stimuli. I can tell you that it changed me profoundly. Not only is my self-confidence very high now, but also the respect people show you changes. Of course, it also has something to do with masculinity and your masculine presence.
It has been so long since someone tried to insult me or show disrespect toward me that I can’t even remember the last time. My thoughts are obsessed with constantly improving myself, and I absolutely do not care what other people think of me.
I also became very spiritual and found my way to God. When I think about my former self, I’m not even angry at him anymore, because that version of me led me to become who I am today. At the moment, I am also building something independently for myself and going through my daily life with maximum focus.
As I said, everything plays a role. You cannot just think, “I’ll stop watching porn and everything will change.” No, that’s not true. You must first completely change your thoughts. You must act, not just think or wish. Simply quitting porn alone will not take you further if you are not ready to change everything else as well.
I changed my entire life, not just removed porn and masturbation. I replaced everything negative with things that move me forward in life. And that is how I became who I am today.
People now treat me only with respect. The way I speak and behave has completely changed. I can look people deeply in the eyes and communicate with them with a strong masculine aura.
But appearance also plays a role. I am very well defined because of my diet and training, with very low body fat and a lot of muscle.
Change your mindset. Change yourself. Change your behavior. Speak clearly and calmly, and stop insulting people or using shameless words. If you decide that things cannot continue like this, then quitting porn is the first step—but after that there is still so much more.
And stop looking at women on the internet. Not only porn is the devil, but everything related to digital sexual stimulation. Biologically, we are not built to see 100+ beautiful women every day, all perfect—even if they are only pictures.
Also stop masturbating even without porn. Sexual energy is very powerful, and you can transform it into something good and gain a lot of focus through it. Even masturbating alone is not good for you. Remove everything related to self-pleasure from your life.
And because many people care about this: what is my relationship with women like?
Before my transformation (NoFap and everything around it), I had never had a girlfriend. In these almost 3 years, I had exactly three ex-girlfriends (with whom I did not have sex for religious reasons). And no, not a single woman approached me—I was the one who approached them when I wanted to.
At the moment, however, I have absolutely no interest in being in a relationship because I am currently working on becoming self-employed and investing my time and energy into that.
But whenever I approached someone, they were naturally very shy and looked at me very kindly.
Grow up. Become men. Don’t think everything will come by itself once you stop watching porn.
And stop whining every time after you have watched those filthy videos again and masturbated to them, complaining about what a failure you are. What a disgusting act it is to lie to yourself day after day. Once a person no longer takes himself seriously, no one else will take him seriously either.
And one last time:
Do not think that just because you stop watching porn and masturbating, everything will magically change on its own. Your brain will set many traps for you and try to get its dopamine from reels, shorts, and TikToks. Do not fall for it! And I can only say it again: under no circumstances should you be looking at random women on Instagram or anywhere else! If you don’t have self-control, then delete social media altogether!
Your thoughts lead to actions, and actions should not remain just thoughts. Make sure you quit porn as soon as possible, every additional video takes away a piece of your masculinity! Do not fall into the dopamine trap! Life can be so much more meaningful if you are strong enough to believe in yourself, no one else will do it for you! Make yourself proud, look in the mirror, and stop talking badly about yourself every single time!
Negative thoughts only make everything worse. Become the man that is already inside you, finally awaken him! I can only say it again: hurry! Every additional day that you lie to yourself, you are only pushing yourself further into destruction. Keep your word to yourself, keep the promises you make to yourself!
How can you be strong enough for others, for your future children, for the woman you dream about every day, if you are not even strong enough for yourself? Change yourself first before trying to change things that are not under your control!
I hope what I’ve written and my experience will help you in the future. There’s nothing more for me to say. I wish you all the strength you need to finally defeat the devil. Good luck.
