Told bf I'd only get engaged with a stipulation, now unsure about it
Girl lunch: turkey caesar sub
My bf (35M) and I (30F) have been together for a little over a year and just moved into our first home together. This is our first official time living together as we kept our respective apartments, but I hadn't spent the night at my place in over 6 months prior to moving in to our house.
After much debate, we decided to have a roommate who will be moving in in a month. This was a huge compromise on my end as I really didn't want a roommate, but we found someone we both know that we feel comfortable with and I can't deny it'll be a massive savings to us both with the financial flexibility to furnish the house and save for a wedding and eventually a family. The roommate is only living with us for a year.
My bf and I had, of course, discussed our future together before moving in but it was always like "my five year plan is XYZ" and agreeing we want to get married, etc. Last night when we were cooking dinner I mentioned something about getting engaged and said "but that's still a couple years away" and he said "YEARS?"
I asked if he was anticipating a different timeline and he said he was planning on proposing by the end of the year. I told him I wouldn't feel comfortable getting engaged without having the chance to live together by ourselves for a while and also that it would feel weird getting engaged and then... coming home to our roommate there? I don't know. He said he understood and joked that he'd save his proposal for the day our roommate moves out next year, but now I'm rethinking it.
My friend asked me what I was worried about in getting engaged while living with a roommate and I can't actually think of any real concerns except that it feels weird? Am I just putting rules down where they don't need to be?