u/Educational-Bug-4306

Hi, I need urgent advice for this!! 

My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for more than half a year now. But we have found ourselves with a little problem. 

Just for context, my boyfriend's dick is considerably big, we use MySize 69mm condoms (like a 2-3XL).

We've been successful with oral sex, and we sometimes use toys without a problem, so we have some basic things figured out.

But I'm kind of annoyed at this point, because whenever we try to have penetrative sex, it just hurts too much.

We do foreplay, we make sure we are both in the mood, he always makes sure I cum at least once before trying, and we use the heck out of lube, but I just can. It hurt to much when he tries, it doesn't matter how slow he goes, I just can't get it past the tip, If I tell him to go further I just feel like something down there is about to rip because of how it hurts (we also have tried with smaller things like his fingers, one is okay, I have no problem, even though when he tries to finger me in different ways, I really don't feel anything apart from him moving inside, but we have never tried any further than one).

I know that I'm supposed to be calm when we try so we have better chances, but I'm just starting to feel annoyed at myself and just kind of depressed, so the last times my boyfriend has asked to try, I just haven't felt motivated.

I'm trying to search for some ideas or just help from anyone who has had or currently has the same problem. I've already considered different ideas:

- Try 2 fingers or more to see which is my limit.

- Buying some kind of 2-3 pack dildos which are of different sizes to see if I can fit something smaller than my boyfriend's size.

- Going to the gynecologist (this is my last and least favourite, because I've had bad past experiences, and the women around me also had, so I don't really have anyone who can show me a good gyno in my city).

Thank you for stopping by and reading, I'll read any answers!!

(Sorry if my English is not excellent, it's not my first language and I'm still learning).

Hi, I need urgent advice for this!! 

My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for more than half a year now. But we have found ourselves with a little problem. 

Just for context, my boyfriend's dick is considerably big, we use MySize 69mm condoms (like a 2-3XL).

We've been successful with oral sex, and we sometimes use toys without a problem, so we have some basic things figured out.

But I'm kind of annoyed at this point, because whenever we try to have penetrative sex, it just hurts too much.

We do foreplay, we make sure we are both in the mood, he always makes sure I cum at least once before trying, and we use the heck out of lube, but I just can. It hurt to much when he tries, it doesn't matter how slow he goes, I just can't get it past the tip, If I tell him to go further I just feel like something down there is about to rip because of how it hurts (we also have tried with smaller things like his fingers, one is okay, I have no problem, even though when he tries to finger me in different ways, I really don't feel anything apart from him moving inside, but we have never tried any further than one).

I know that I'm supposed to be calm when we try so we have better chances, but I'm just starting to feel annoyed at myself and just kind of depressed, so the last times my boyfriend has asked to try, I just haven't felt motivated.

I'm trying to search for some ideas or just help from anyone who has had or currently has the same problem. I've already considered different ideas:

- Try 2 fingers or more to see which is my limit.

- Buying some kind of 2-3 pack dildos which are of different sizes to see if I can fit something smaller than my boyfriend's size.

- Going to the gynecologist (this is my last and least favourite, because I've had bad past experiences, and the women around me also had, so I don't really have anyone who can show me a good gyno in my city).

Thank you for stopping by and reading, I'll read any answers!!

(Sorry if my English is not excellent, it's not my first language and I'm still learning).